Hi well my dads cancer spread to his lungs so at the end his lungs kept filling with fluid and that was the beginning of the end for him. Palative care is different than hospice. Palative care your husband can still get chemo but if you switch to hospice then he cant get chemo anymore. Its such a tough decision to make. I guess you have to talk to the drs to see if chemo at this time will help him and if so how long would it prolong his life and would he have quality of life. Im so sorry you have to go through this., It was the hardest thing I ever had to go through with my dad. At the end I was so scared I didnt know what to expect. I didnt know how he would eventualy die and if it would be painful for him. Let me tell you that he didnt not suffer the last day at all. He was just uncouncious all day and then took his last breath. I also wondered what would happen to him on a daily basis until he passed on and if you want me to share that with you I can. Also Hospice gives you a booklet and it explained everything that would happen and my dad pretty much experienced most of the things in the book. Again im sorry and if you ever need to talk please feel free to email me. Mindy