On 6/23/2008
goodbyes wrote:
Hi everyone,
You are not alone, My mom just diagnosed with gallbladder cancer about 1 month ago, Dr. said she will have 1 more year left, because the cancer has spread to her liver and lymph node. Also dr. said, surgery isn't help, either chemo or radition. My mom will move with another specialist for 2rd opinion on June 26, 08. And this dr. will start over everything ( CT scan, MRI, or Blood test..ect.)
My mom live in Kentucky, and I live in California, cause I married and move here with my husband, I want to stay with my mom so I can help her while she sick but she doesnt let me, she wants me to stay in california to take care of my husband and my son, she says she ok with this. Now i feel everything in this world just nothing to me, Only thing I want now is my mom would live with me longer, I am not ready to let her ago while she's just 57 years old. I cant stand to see my mom in pain everyday, with small food, small drink, weight lost, sleep 2-3 hours per day. I can imaging how can I live with life like this. My mom's so strong, never complain, just moving on to waiting for that day's coming.
Im so sorry to hear about your mother, she sounds really caring wanting you to carry on looking after your family. But whatever time you spend with her now will be precious and you can give her all the love you can.
I lost my mother to this wicked cancer in september 2006 and I think about her always just as much as when she was alive and she remains in my heart always. They tried to operate on my mother thinking it was bile duct cancer but when they opened her up it was much worse and they could do nothing for her. She got pneumonia and died a few days after the operation. She was 59 years old and as fit as a fiddle in the june and was dead in the september.
It was probably a blesing she went so soon as she was really poorly after the operation but I didnt have much time with her so you really should treasure the time you have with your mama. remember your not alone and although im on the other side of the atlantic ill be thinking about you and your wonderful mama. god bless. Richard xx