On 7/17/2008
kittysue wrote:
Hi,
I don't want to sadden anyone, but my dear mother passed away on June 2 from ovarian cancer- carcinoma sarcoma- which her oncloogist assures me is rare and has a 5-10% chance of genetic heredity... She was 72, a vegan (all organic) working fulltime, playing tennis 2x per week and healthier than me, her 43 year old daughter. It has been devestating, and I am trying to reach out to a woman (or someone else) who has experienced this kind of paralyzing loss..I read a sad/lovely message on this site from a daughter who expressed how she couldn't function- being outside in the sun- thinking about what her mom would be doing.... I am devestated...losing my Mom, my best friend, my compass... and doing all of the aftermath alone. Hospice has been FABULOUS, but at the end of the day, I still want my mom back. She was treated at Fox Chase Cancer Center for 16 months (she was on more trials than any of her oncologist's patients) which is irrelevant, but if you have any supportlive words, I would appreciate them. Grieving Daughter, Susan , Portland, Maine
Susan -
Please accept my deepest sympathy for the loss of your mother. I am on the other side of the coin. I have stage IV OVCA and I have a daughter who is 35 yrs old. All I can tell you is what I want for my daughter when I pass. I do not want her to be stuck in grief. I want her to celebrate the wonderful mother/daughter relationship that we were able to enjoy. A lot of mothers and daughters do not get to have such closeness. Celebrate your mother and the love you shared. She would want you to go on and have a happy healthy life. This is what I want for my daughter when my time comes and I am sure this is what your mother would want for you.
Grieve, but don't get stuck there. Remember your mother with love and joy. She sounds like a special woman. You will be in my prayers tonight.
Diane T