On 8/3/2008
Willy926 wrote:
I am Evelyn's husband and just wanted to let everyone know that I will be around to update things when she goes in hospital.
It has been a rough battle for her these past few months and has taken it's toll on her. She doesn't get much support from her family and I am the one that basically does everything. At times I find it hard because she can be so moody and it seems no matter what I do, I do it wrong and it makes it hard to know what to do.
I try and give her as much support as I can and I will be glad once the operation is done and they finally know what stage this is and how things are going to turn out. Not knowing is the hardest part of all of this.
Willy
Hi Willy
I remember to well how my dad treated my mom when he was diagnosed with cancer. Everything my mom did bothered him. Once while he was in the hospital she walked in with a balloon with a smiley face on it. He started yelling at her about the balloon - problem is I am the one that bought the balloon - she was just carrying it for me. A nurse talked to us after my mother ran out of the room crying. She said it is common for a cancer patient to blame the spouse. I tried to keep that in mind as I went through my treatment - to let my husband know how much I appreciated his being there. It is a scary time though for patients and caregivers. My prayers are with you both.
Diana