Got married in dec 04, in jan 05 husband had mole removed from ear..came back melanoma 2.6 with ulceration..(deep shave probably didnt get the full thickness) we did clean margins and everything looked good, nothing on the pet scan or ct ...aug 05 husband woke up with lump on his temple...immediately went to md and was sent to moffitt cancer institute in tampa..after almost 2 months of testing , pet scans and biopsy , results are stage 4 with small spots on liver and lung and tumor on spine t10-t12 and the temple..we have had 2 radiation tx to temple and spine now and starting chemo on monday..im so nervous..said we are gonna get 8 hour iv infusion then the next 2 days almost 5 hour iv infusions and pills...cisplatin, temodar, tamoxifen and dacarbazine...any helpful hints or suggestions?