Alisa,
Know that you and your family are in my prayers. Chemo can be extremely hard on a person because while it is killing the cancer, it also kills blood cells and other things that the body desprately needs. I respect your husbands decision not to continue chemo, but am concerned about his depression (which I'm sure you may share). I am no expert but I do know that a positive attitude is very necessary when anyone is diagnosed with any condition or disease. Do you practice any religion? If so, PLEASE go to your church or group and allow them to be another support system for your family. Maybe it will help give your husband the faith and hope he needs to carry on. Also, you'd be suprised how many will help out with your financial burden, don't be afraid to ask. I completely understand your money troubles: cancer doesn't only devastate the patients health but it affects the emotional and financial stability for the patient AND the family. Remember and remind your husband that material objects are always replaceable and that life is much more valuable than anything that money could ever buy. Trust me, cancer is a true reminder of this: it is very humbling, especially if you did not have much money in the first place (as in my family's case). Since your husband has decided to discontinue chemo: maybe you should start looking into some alternative therapies? There are SO many out there that are natural and may help not only his cancer, but also the recovery from the damage the chemo has done AND his emotional health. Maybe if he can find some natural substances to help his recovery, he may reach a point that he can withstand the chemo and the alternative meds will help fight the side effects. You may also consider getting a second opinon from another Oncologist - it may very well be that a different doctor won't take such an aggressive approach.
God Bless