Dear Cindy, my dear husband is recovering from his BMT. He went to hospital on March 13th and stayed alone during all the process. I could have been with him but he decided I should stay wih our children. He came out on April12th (Holy wednesday). He was weak and sad, he had suffeered. I could see him every day and talk to him through a glass but could not approach him. it was a hard month. Then he had two minor complications (one of them drove him to hospital again for a week) but on the whole he's now beggining to feel stronger and very happy, full of life. As far as now his BMT has been a success. For us it was the best decission.
For your dear Lauren I don't know. She's the same age as my younger boy. I can feel your sorrow. I wonder if Cindy's dad is with you (excuse me, I just think that you need support for yourself).
Did you get an unrelated donor? I hope you do. Although BMT is hard and dangerous, it's the only cure. It's painful and sad or whatever (time goes by) but then, she'll be free from illness.
Feel free to ask whatever you may need. I pray for you and your dear Lauren. Love from Alicia.