I have had MM for nearly 4 years now, I chose not to have the stem cell transplant. I read up on it considerably before my decision. I have mixed alternative measures with conventional ones with close monitoring. I have not gotten any better but my decline has been slower than many others. In regard to your husband's mental response, some of it is most likely protective for you; he doesn't want you to see him in pain or looking so bad. He should change his posture about 4 weeks into treatment, hopefully. I had a friend who succumbed to MM after 2 1/2 yrs. who didn't want to talk to me about his bout or return calls. Don't give up, don't let his response affect your love or care for him. If you do not have him on any prayer group, get him on a list. I believe this has helped me more than any other thing. I have people praying for me and my wife all over the world and I know it has sustained us in our battle. You are already in one prayer group I know.