Hi Steph,
Recovery is going great. Seven weeks post op and two days ago I actually forgot for the whole day that it even happened. It wasn't until I saw my scar in the mirror and was surprised how "normal" I'm starting to feel. I'm getting good control of daytime continence, night time is going to take sometime. Kathy is a controller for a pharmcutical distributor and lost her main warehouse guy so for the past few days I've been him no problems. Picking, packing orders and lifting heavy boxes. I get a little more tired than I use to but that is to be expected. I did lose about 25 pounds but I needed to lose 50 pounds so it was a good thing for me. They "hollowed out" my prostate, it is still there but small. My dr spared all of my nerves but my tumor was on the back side of my bladder. My tastes in food have changed. I use to like fried greasy stuff but now it grosses me out. I like chicken and fish go figure. It was a very postive outcome. My nickname has always been the Penguin because in 40 degree weather I was in shorts and short sleeve t-shirt but after the surgery for about 5 weeks I was cold all the time but they say that is from the anesthesia and is getting better with time. With Shawn only being 28 yrs old I'm sure he will recover very quickly. I can only actually remember one bad day from the whole thing and that was the second day after the surgery. The best advice I can give you guys is to learn how to laugh at it. Tell him not to be surprised if he gets bummed out some days. Have him talk to you about it. At 28 he may not be willing to share vulnerable emotions but it really helps to talk about it. Tell him if he wants to talk to a guy about it contact me. I do not think they will let me give personal info just as email or phone number but you can get it by going to my website www.timrayhomes.com. This will bring you guys closer together if you let it. Remember to hold each other and that tomorrow will come. Also if you have to get cancer this is the best one to get I think.
Tim and Kathy