Remember when I said this is a two stage recovery and the surgery was the easy part? First thing is to stop drinking two hours before bed make sure he is getting at least 64 oz of liquid a day but not much more.It took me three months before I could go once a night. There are a couple of options here. 1 he can just pee his depends and go on sleeping as long as he does pee and doesn't stretch his neobladder.2 you can get what they call a Texas catheter it's a condom with a hose that goes to a bag any medical supply store will carry them or you can go on line.#3 is the way he is doing it I think it will have the best outcome in the long run.I never had a problem getting back to sleep nor does Kathy. It is a tough road for the first few months and I don't think anyone gets the sleep they need and that's something I was mad about that the doctors don't tell you.Dr.Koch will most likely give him a sleep aid. Until I stopped drinking two hours before bed I was up 2-3 time also. I hate seeing you go to separate beds but you wouldn't be the first. this is going to take some time and there is no way around it. Have him try a ear piece that is hooked up to the alarm this way you will not hear it and if its loud enough it will wake him.I think the best choice is to wet the bed if he can get over it. whats happening with me now is 9 out of 10 nights my body wakes me before the alarm also make sure you have night lites in the bathroom so the bright lights don't wake him.and one last comment he is doing great it takes 6 weeks before you can go back to work but it takes months before you start to feel normal.
I hope this helps.
Tim and Kathy