I am just starting to learn about the disease. My father-in-law was diagnosed with it about a year ago. They live about 250 miles away so we really don't see them much, we talk several times a week. My father in law is still driving. I can notice differences one is that he gets very emotional. I really worry about him driving and they live so far away. All three of his children live 250 miles away. My mother in law doesn't really know much of the disease and really don't want know anything in advance. She says she will take it one day at a time. I saw your message and could tell you loved your mother very much. I also learned quite a bit from your reading. Grieving is a hard process as I lost my mother to lung cancer 7 yrs ago, my son to suicide 2 yrs ago. And now my best friend was just diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer in which I am trying to research her cancer.