My wife and I are my moms primary caregivers, I have an older sister (47) who constantly makes excuses for not coming over to my house to help out or to keep mom company so that my wife and I can spend some time away from the front lines. We get very frustrated with her and I have had several conversations with her about the importance of her spending what little time is left with her and also how it would help us out. My mom also makes excuses for her and does not think it is a problem.
My mom was diagnosed with colon cancer in Feb.2005 when they removed a tumor from the colon. She went through 6 months of chemo only to have a large tumor grow on her ovary, which was removed in Dec.2005. At that time the surgeon had told us that the she is now in stage iv and that the cancer had spread to her aorta and pelvic areas and that she had a 15% chance to live a year longer.
My father passed away in early Feb.2006 of a heart attack, one month later my mom was admitted to the hospital for shortness of breath. The lung Dr. is currently treating her for an advanced stage of fibrosis and the oncologist has stopped all treatments and had suggested that we get her involved with hospice which we did 2 weeks ago.
I know that I am rambling on with no rhyme or reason but at this point I am very confused, I feel isolated from the world, no one can tell me what to expect in the days and weeks ahead.
Can anyone relate to what I am going through or offer some advice or encouragement.
What ever response I get will be appreciated.