I am the daughter in law, my mother in law has stomach, spleen and partial pancreas cancer. I have been her primary caregiver. I am completely frustrated with her children. They are unwilling or unable to do anything for her. They only step up when I completely withdraw, or am unavailable to do whatever she needs. She love me very much and I love her, but she isn't my mother. I am unsure what to do, a therapist told me to do 1/3 of the work she needs done, with mine being the last third after her children do their part. But they wont. She is dying and I feel like I am abandoning her in her time of need. HELP!! any comments are welcome.
Thank you!!!