hey, kat--thanks for the reply. the last time I went to the dr. I asked him about my chances of recurrence. he said it was20%. I was not happy. a one in five chance. not good. and a friend who had stage 1, mast, chemo, and radiation, just died; about two years after initial diagnosis. maybe I'll wait for my 5 years to be up before reconstruction. just don't know yet. still on the fence. as far as feeling sexy, I know my husband is just happy to have me with him. I'm a few years older than you. still working.