Please help me. I am grabbing at straws. My close friend was diagnosed end-stage IV PC in February, 2007. I am 59 years old, running from my house to her house, going to a full time job, helping with her six year old son. I am tired every day. They were unable to operate. The tumor had attached itself to major blood vessels and engulfed the tail of the pancreas and the main duct where the blood supply enters, etc. It is sad. I want hospice but, she feels she can take care of herself. What should I do?