On 1/2/2007
Karateka wrote:
My husband (36 never smoked) became sick the last week of Oct 2006. He first developed pleural effusion in his chest. We were originally told pneumonia, then maybe TB, then possibly legionaire's disease, then they did an Xray and CT, and it was cancer. Maybe lymphoma. No it wasn't lymphoma, maybe it was germ cell cancer. It wasn't germ cell cancer, but maybe it was lymphoma after all. No, it was definitely not lymphoma but they couldn't say for sure what it was. My husband ended up in the hospital during this wait for a night because he couldn't breathe. A needle biopsy was inconclusive; not enough material was snagged. So a surgical biopsy was requested the day after Thanksgiving. They brought in extra staff and opened a extra OR for it. He was in the hospital for over a week to recover. The samples were sent out to the Mayo clinic. The best guess: sarcomatoid carcinoma of unknown or lung primary. It's stage IV. It has metasticized to his lymph nodes and his spine. He started chemo, and has had 2 treatments so far. He seems to be responding but from what we know, there is only one report of someone with this type of cancer living beyond 2 years, regardless of age or gender. He has lost over 40lbs. Our children are both under 3. Our oldest gets upset when daddy coughs loudly, afraid he will 'spit up.' Our youngest points to the baby monitor I use when hubby is in the bedroom and I have to be around the house and says "Daddy cough."
It's only been 2 months, but it feels like years. I want to plan and take action, but there isn't much I can do, except take care of everyone, and go to work, and keep putting one foot in front of the other. Yes, that is a lot sometimes, but it doesn't fix the problem. I want to fix the problem. I want to know what to expect and what to do.
Early on, we were repeating "I may not win, but I do not have to lose," to keep hope, but it seems like even that has been taken away sometimes, even though he is responding to the chemo. I am scared that I will have to watch the last 2 months all over again; how sick he was, how much pain he had. And that I will be able to do even less than I can now. At the very least, I want to know what happens when remission ends. Does anyone have experience with this form of cancer? What does stage IV really mean? I know what it means in terms of size and locations and metasticizing. Can people live for a long time with stage IV? How do you keep hope?
Thanks.