My fiance was diagnosised 3 weeks ago with metastic keratinizing
squamous cell carcinoma after many endoscopies and ct scans we were
informed yesterday the doctors cannot find the primary site.He has
been very depressed talking about death all the time. I am
getting so frustrated adn don't know how to help him any longer.
He has called off our wedding and doesn't want to get married until he
is in remission.He also keeps pushing me away.. After searching the
internet i haven't found anything good out about this diagnosis.
January 19 he is having a neck dissection with chomo - radiation
therapy afterwords. He keeps saying he can't go through the chemo..Does
anybody have any advise on how i should handle the situation or
suggestions to use to make him more positive? The doctor said he is a
stage 2, with a survival rate of 60%. But everything i've read states
otherwise? I keep telling him he has to be positive that we will kick
this thing and continue on with our future plans and dreams. But the
cancer has been consuming our life. I've had him talk to other cancer
survivors with the same diagnosis and he said that made him more
depressed because of the treatment he has to go through. I am so
overwhelmed with all the information i've read. Does anybody have any
suggestions or positive thoughts. I do not want to lose him..He is 55
and i am 50 so were no spring chickens.
Thank you so very much
Karol