Hi Everybody,
My mother is in T3N1MO stage. Due to her lung condition she can never have surgery. We saw oncologist on Tues. Now we have several appoints. to get her set up for chemo and radiation. She will have to have a feeding tube put in. It is so hard now and I know the hell is just beginning. Her Dr. says her prognosis is good. I now work 1 hour from my home 4 days a week. I am gone 12 1/2 hours a day those days. I work with my sister at her husbands business. My first reaction is I have to quit work to be with my mother. I think someone needs to be with her 24 / 7. She is 75 years old and I don't think she should ever have to drive herself. I want to be with her every step of the way. My sister does't want me to quit work. She says she will help. My sister says she just wants to think everything will be back to normal and Mama will be fine after treatment. I think my sister wants us to be able to still work together so we can support each other. She was crying today and said she might need me too. I don't know what to do. Mama lives with me and I want to spend every minute I can with her. I will ruin my credit if I quit work because we cannot pay all our bills on my husband check. I can rebuild credit but I could never get over not being with my Mom. I am not like my sister. I don't think everything will be OK in 6 mos after treatment. It is awful to deal with the thought of losing Mama and then to have other issues as well. Any advice? Does anyone have any info what to expect from radiation? The Dr said by the last 2 weeks Mama want be able to swallow her throat will be so sore but it will go away. Sorry for rambling. This is an outlet. Thanks and my prayers and thoughts are still with everybody going through this. Pat