I know it must be a very confusing time for you. My father has been diagosed with kidney cancer with poor prognosis, and my husband (who is a doctor) seems to be at a complete loss for what to do or say. I can say though, that I wish he would give me hugs and let me cry on his shoulder, help me to celebrate the things that I love about my father and how lucky I was to have him in my life at all. I wish he would help me to look forward to the next chapter in my life, and all the wonderful things that are yet to come our way (building our own family, our own family traditions, building a dream career). My husband and I haven't been married long either, only about 3 years. Don't ever make the mistake of telling him that you know what he's going through. Do give him space and time to grieve. Do help him to find happiness through he activities which he once enjoyed. Do help him to find peace in knowing that his mother is no longer in any physical and emotional pain. Please understand, don't desert him and leave him feeling like there's no one left in his world. A situation like this can turn into the worst thing that could happen to a marriage, or it can provide you with an opportunity to grow closer than you ever imagined.