I don't think you could have any better advice than what was just given. It can be very hard not to be selfish, especially since you are newly wed. But - for better or worse - it's your time to show your strength and unconditional love. If you are looking for someone to say poor you, that's not good. (And I share that in the most understanding way). Read the previous post over and over if you have to. It's your time to be strong and supportive. Things will get better as long as you don't expect it. There is no time line on grieving your Mother. If it were your Mom, what would you want? We all wish you the best, and please come back if you need "you" time. There is nothing wrong with that. It's just a sensitive time for him right now. There is nothing wrong with telling him you miss him. But, timeing is everything, and you will know. Truly, you will know, when you need to tell him how much you miss him. Then he may be able to talk openly about how much he hurts. Remember - he is a man :-) We all have good men - but, still men! - - - I wish you the best