I can't agree with you more. My mother was DX with nsclc stage 4 in jan07. Surgery and radiation aren't options only low dose chemo to help give her quality of life. At first I was so angry that this was happening to our family. My mom is a strong believer in her faith and leads such a good innocent life. The best mom and grandmother anyone can ask for. But it's funny my mom has always had bad things happen to her and she just keeps on trucking. It has taken alot for me to understand and to come to peace with what is going on. I am the youngest of 3 at 26. My mom has actually been my strength through these couple of months. She has never gotten selfish and asked Why me? She always asks Why not me? She has taught me how to pray. Hey I thought it was so easy just ask for what I wanted and in some way he would answer. I've had to learn that you have to ask for His will to be done. And that he give you the strength to make it through these hard times. While my mom was in the hospital (she went in to the ER for pain in her side and the docs did a xray on her gallbladder and thats when the tumors showed up) she got the news when she was by herself. We hadn't made it up to the hospital that day yet. Anyway my dad was the last to find out. After she explained everything to him she looked right at him and said "now don't be jealous that I am going to heaven before you." I couldn't believe that. The same day that her doctor told her she was terminal she was already talking about Heaven. At first I thought she was just being strong for all of us but I can look at her and see she is sincere. She has an inner strength that is showing through. I truely believe that God is keeping her here on Earth to be a witness for Him. To let others know that if they believe and trust that He will take care of them and give them peace. God Bless everyone who is going through this horrible disease caretakers also.