Latest Emotional Support discussions http://www.cancercompass.com/message-board/after-treatment/emotional-support/1,0,120,78.htm Thu, 24 Jul 2008 00:00:00 GMT Thu, 24 Jul 2008 00:00:00 GMT http://backend.userland.com/rss RSS.NET: http://www.rssdotnet.com/ god bless you, first and foremost. i lost my mother exactly a month ago today from lung cancer. she was diagnosed in late april after it had spread throughout her entire body. she was gone within two months. the pain has not gone away, but it is getting easier. the most important thing to remember is that they would not want you to grieve, but celebrate them instead. it is natural to want them back, but they are in a better place now. time is the only thing that makes the hurting manageable. my mom was 51 when she passed, and i am 22. she will never hold her granchildren or see me graduate from college (for oncological research none the less). but i know she will always be there for me and look down on me from up above. as strange as it sounds, it's almost a blessing to loose someone this way because it gives you time to prepare and say eveything you've wanted to say. that is a blessing most people do not have. all i can tell you is to keep strong and positive because that is what your mother would have wanted.You are in my thoughts and prayers,Merissa M. Short http://www.cancercompass.com/message-board/message/all,26357,0.htm merissa s Tue, 22 Jul 2008 00:00:00 GMT My mother was diagnosed with colon cancer 2/07.  Everything went well with all of her treatments until about 2/08.  At this point the cancer started to grow a little and had enlarged a lymph node near her stomach.  Within the last 2 weeks she completed radiation to shrink the cancer which the doctor's say has worked well.  Since radiation she seems to be going down hill fast.  She insists she can not eat.  Not because it makes her sick, or gives her any kind of pain, she just says she can't.  She is now very weak which the doctor's say is caused by her not eating.  We have tried everything to get her to eat.  She will not listen to any one and just says she is "Sick of her whole life".  She doesn't even seem to care how much she is hurting her grandchildren.  Does anyone have any suggestions on how to deal with this? http://www.cancercompass.com/message-board/message/all,26344,0.htm plk40atmc Tue, 22 Jul 2008 00:00:00 GMT would anybody how to find inner peace to get rid of these bothering feelings i have . or what site if there is one . please tell me if you can. do you know or understand why  these feeling are so real . and i am trying to find out why , thanks katie http://www.cancercompass.com/message-board/message/all,26326,0.htm sweetlady Tue, 22 Jul 2008 00:00:00 GMT I want to take this time to thank the people who started this web sit.  The people on this site have helped me tremendously while my husband was going through brain cancer.  The support and answers that I received from the friends on this site have been so valuable during my husband's cancer.  The doctors couldn't answer all of my questions, but when I asked people on this site, answers came from people that were going through GBM.  The information I gained was first hand knowledge.  As I have said in the past, my husband's doctors were wonderful, but they were not living with GBM day in and day out.  To everyone on this site and those who are suffering/dealing with cancer, my prayers are being raised up to God daily for you.  Thank you cancer compass people. http://www.cancercompass.com/message-board/message/all,26324,0.htm Aacddd3 Tue, 22 Jul 2008 00:00:00 GMT i have been having  emotion likw sometimes i feel like crying or yelling or throwing something or some across the world or having a yelling match for no reason . i like to talk to someone who has these effects a another is being happy on minute and  sad the next time . do you just hate it when you have to go for a mri ever 3moths. i know my family love and is giving me support but they havent never been there . they do understand my brother who had colon cancer  and has been cancer free foe 15yrs is a great support.&i never though that my dad would be so concerni blessed them for that i just want to talk someone  anyways http://www.cancercompass.com/message-board/message/all,26314,0.htm sweetlady Mon, 21 Jul 2008 00:00:00 GMT Im again on the board reaching for help, Its been 8mts , for my grandsons peepaw and 6yrs, for my dady, who would give the world to me, I am my fathers child, and feel so empty inside, knowing that the men in my life are no longer there for me, I knew no matter what I could count on both of them, I have two beautiful daughters from this man and a beautiful grandson, that when he sees a man , that looks like his peepaw, he cant help to say "peepaw" that tears my insides up, but maybe he knows more , maybe his peepaw is keeping his memory alive threw others who favor him. When I look at the beautiful children we produce, thats what keeps me going, and I look just like my dad, so I know I have to keep being strong, but its sooo hard, I wish I could just talk or touch them just one more time , to tell them they are the best, I know it dosent get better, only time makes it easier to deal with, to all who has lost that special person in there lifes! http://www.cancercompass.com/message-board/message/all,26246,0.htm bullrita Sat, 19 Jul 2008 00:00:00 GMT My mom recently died. She had lung cancer, a mass on her neck causing all food and drink into her lungs so she could not feed (losing 60 lbs in 3 months), brain cancer as well. She was put in the hospital...3 different areas in 5 days and then Hospice. They were kind enough for the sugar water for a couple of days and then nothing. I will NEVER forget her begging me for something to eat. "Anything" is what she asked for. I gave her some ice cream but she couldnt eat it as everything went into her lungs I know Hospice wont prolong life but couldnt they give her a feeding tube for just a while?I STARVED MY MOTHER! http://www.cancercompass.com/message-board/message/all,26060,0.htm tewksbaby Mon, 14 Jul 2008 00:00:00 GMT I had my scans at 2 years after surgery and chemo for stage III last Friday, and am waiting for the results- very nervously.  A couple of weeks ago, my primary care doctor did routine bloodwork and CEA was 1.8.  It had varied from 3.1 to 2.8 post-treatment, which my oncologist was "very happy" with, his words.  At first, I was encouraged about the low reading, but then started to wonder about the difference between labs/ equipment, etc.  Any input would be welcome, and blessings to all in this community. http://www.cancercompass.com/message-board/message/all,26046,0.htm KWest Mon, 14 Jul 2008 00:00:00 GMT Is anyone aware of cancer support groups in Morelia?English or Spanish. http://www.cancercompass.com/message-board/message/all,25791,0.htm miguelm Mon, 07 Jul 2008 00:00:00 GMT had tyroid radiation to neck. lost taste/mouth moisture. having difficult timr adjusting. can you share with me some helpful tips. it has been three  since radiation. struggle http://www.cancercompass.com/message-board/message/all,25747,0.htm struggle Sat, 05 Jul 2008 00:00:00 GMT Hi, In one of the many messages I read there was a link to a very nice candle prayer web site. If anyone knows it can you please send it to me or link it as I have lost the link. Thanks so much and prayers to all afflicted with cancer. Ellen http://www.cancercompass.com/message-board/message/all,25743,0.htm eljoy18 Sat, 05 Jul 2008 00:00:00 GMT HII am a 59 yr old female who had whipple surgery done april 10, 07 I still have problems when I eat my tongue burns and so does my throat. My taste buds also feel like they swell up.  Thankfully I did not have cancer. I had tumors on my pancreas so they removed the head and also cut part of my stomach and took my gallbladder out and reattached my small intestines back. It waas a tough surgery to recover. I just wanted to know if anyone ever heard of your tongue burning and throat and swollen taste buds after they had the whipple done. It doesn't matter what I eat I always get that burning feeling. http://www.cancercompass.com/message-board/message/all,25641,0.htm jake59 Wed, 02 Jul 2008 00:00:00 GMT I had the Whipple Procedure in Feb. of 2007. I'm still having discomfort right around the belly button area. Mostly when I wake up. Does anyone else have this pain? I'm very happy that I came across this website. After reading about several peole being tired ,depressed and having trouble breathing I felt relief. It's nice to know that I'm not crazy like my husband keeps tellng me. Everytime I mention a pain he saids "it's all in your head, it's been over a year you should be fine." http://www.cancercompass.com/message-board/message/all,25559,0.htm Twinkie572 Mon, 30 Jun 2008 00:00:00 GMT HIA year a go I had whipple surgery and thankfully I didn't have cancer of the pancreas. I was just wondering if anyone who had this surgery experience any burning of the throat and mouth. My stomach also burns. They had to cut my stomach and it seems now everytime I eat I fill up real fast. It took me a whole year to start to feel better but I am still having some issues and also did anybody get depressed after having this surgery. I lost 20lbs which I could not afford to and I cannot gain any of the weight back. Thanks for reading http://www.cancercompass.com/message-board/message/all,25431,0.htm jake59 Thu, 26 Jun 2008 00:00:00 GMT well, i really dont know how to start this but i found out a while ago that my mother has cancer. i really try to be strong for her and my myself but i just cant do it im her only daughter of 2. i try to ask her about this cancer she has but she never wants to talk about it. she changes the subject or she tells me not to worry about it cause shes not worried at all about it but it still drives me crazy!!! My mother says it is in remishion thats a good thing right???I need advise on how to handle and talk about it.. it seems like im more worried than shell ever be..PLEASE get back at meSincerly Elizabeth http://www.cancercompass.com/message-board/message/all,25187,0.htm elizabeth23 Thu, 19 Jun 2008 00:00:00 GMT On Feb. 28, 2005, at the age of 54, I underwent the Whipple Procedure. I was residing in South Carolina at the time, employed as a firefighter/medic and seriously injured my back & right shoulder in the line of duty. While having an MRI performed for my back injury, the physician found I had tumours in my pancreas. I had no symptoms of anything wrong with my pancreas!  Immediately I was referred to MUSC (Medical University Center of SC, Charleston) to the physician whose specialty was pancreatic diseases. He was "the best of the best" and wasted no time determining surgery was needed. While we did not know whether the tumours were cancerous or not I still required the procedure. I will NOT lie to anyone, the procedure and pain to follow was horrid to endure! I actually prayed I would die, the pain was that bad.  I spent 13 days in the hospital, on a morphine drip with many "over-rides" of additional pain med. by the nurses. (Let me add, I DO have a high tolerance to pain) So this tells you how bad it was. Upon my release I spent 1 month at home being cared for by my loving husband (also a firefighter/medic). I needed daily IV "feedings" plus many medications, for pain, nausea, vomitting and my husband was more than willing & qualified to provide this care. Upon my first return visit to my physician he could not believe his eyes when I walked into the exam room!  He indicated most patients "crawl in or are wheeled in" at this point, but I walked !  While I was still in pain it was moderate by this time. I still had daily episodes of nausea, but my meds.helped greatly. I MUST ADD: the tumours WERE NOT cancerous at this time, however, they were the type which would have developed into cancer within a year! Only the head of my pancreas had to be removed, along with the duodenum, phylorus, etc..I have now developed the malabsorption syndrome and am dealing with it. But I was lucky, while I suffered the serious injury, it allowed the precancerous tumours to be found and treated. Every day I thank God for my back injury!  My faith in God, as well as my wonderful husband, is what gave me the strength to endure the Whipple Procedure. I advise everything to "not give up" but be a fighter----and pray!  You can get thru this...  http://www.cancercompass.com/message-board/message/all,25050,0.htm Ms.Kathy Sat, 14 Jun 2008 00:00:00 GMT I just had the LEEP today and was really freaked out beforehand. Diagnosed with CIN 1-2 for one biopsied specimen and CIN 3 for the other. I had a bad time with the colpo so was afraid of what the LEEP would be like. I think the thing that made the LEEP bearable is that I was given a shot of Versed which makes you kind of out of it though I was aware of what was going on. It helps to relax you and to reduce anxiety. I also took 4 midol spread out in the morning before. I was struggling with whether to do it in the OR or not, but am glad I just opted for the office and to be drugged up in the process. The shots into the cervix were minimally painful and the actual LEEP part did not hurt too bad at all. I am now having some cramps and pray that it doesn't get worst. I guess I will see what the results of the tissue are and pray that it's not cancer and that the abnormal cells do not come back! I have appreciated reading everyone's input about their own experiences. If you have not had the LEEP yet, no worries, just ask your doc if you can please get something to drug you up a bit or Valium or something so you're not on edge like I was if you are not going under general anesthesia. Take care and best wishes to all. http://www.cancercompass.com/message-board/message/all,25013,0.htm trying2chill Fri, 13 Jun 2008 00:00:00 GMT hi ,  my partners nan was digonised with secondary liver cancer just a few months ago , the last few weeks she has rapidly detoriated, she was taken into hospital on tuesday as they susspected she had calcium build up that was affecting her brain, she was kept into be observed, then ysesterday after lunch she went to sleep and they couldnt wake her and her breathing was shallow the whole family was called to say good bye but as far as i know shes still holding on, she is in alot of pain everything ive read about liver cancer has said its not painful well i dont think thats true! my partner has spent night and day with her ,last night we were told that her body is starting to shut down and thats why she was taken off the drip as she no long needed it, the worse thing is not knowing how long does it take for the body to shut down ? she needs to be relased from this awful dieases why does it drag it out so long, i want her to be at peace and be with the love of her life again it makes me so angry that life is so cruel ! http://www.cancercompass.com/message-board/message/all,24990,0.htm faye 26 Fri, 13 Jun 2008 00:00:00 GMT Hello Everyone,Well my story started almost 7 years ago when I was 20 weeks pregnant. I was sitting at work one day and I was unable to move. So of course I went to make sure the baby was OK. I went for an ultrasound and a 11 cm mass was on my right ovary. Of course I was scared to death. We scheduled a surgery to have it removed the next week. Well, as I was laying around in the house I had terrible pains and I had to call 911. It ended up that the mass rumptured and started to leak, so I had to go in for emergency surgury. So it ended up being cancerous. SO we went to go see an oncologist and he had me finish my term with the baby and then I would have to go for an exploritory surgery. So I did all that and it ended up that the original mass was the size of a quarter in my small intestine. So I had that removed and part of the intestine removed. I went for 12 rounds of chemo.7 years later spots appeared on my right lung and they have turned to be cancerous.I went for 4 rounds of chemo and then I went for another surgery to have several wedges taken out of my right lung...ouch. So as I am told by my doctor I am cancer free...but I still have to go for 8 for chemo treatments. (I have 5 to go for now) Does anyone have any ideas on how to feel better the days after chemo? I go every other week for chemo and I wear a fanny pack home for 2 days and a nurse comes to the house to unhook me. Just looking for support/advice. Thank you so much http://www.cancercompass.com/message-board/message/all,24861,0.htm Robynlynn35 Tue, 10 Jun 2008 00:00:00 GMT Hi, my name is Samantha and my husband(Dan), 35, was diagnosed with stage IV stomach cancer on 2/8/08. He was suppose to have it removed, but when they went in they had found that it has already spread. He is now starting his 4th. cycle of chemo and seems more tired and seeing more side-effects than before. He is working, but it is hard for him at times.  Anyway, we have only been married a few years and were in the process having starting a family right before we found out that Dan had cancer. So before Dan started chemo, we went ahead a banked some of his sperm. Now my husband wants to go ahead and start a family. Yet, I have mixed feelings about it. I have read up on new fertility treatments and there are some small chances that the drugs can raise my chances of getting cancer in the future. It is all a big "they don 't know enough" I know I want children, but I dont know if doing it this way is such a good idea. I have no idea what the outcome of my husband will be and I don't want to make the wrong choice. I especially don't want to hurt his heart of wanting a family. I am so confused about this. I think a child could be such a blessing, yet it could make things worse. What if I was one of those people who ended up with a multiple pregnancy and something happened to him and I was unable to financially take care of them. My husband is an engineer and I am a teacher so our salaries are quite different. I am so confued and I don't know what to do. Some of my freinds tell me to do it an others say it is not a good idea. Yet, they do not have a husband who has stage IV cancer.  So I am looking for some good advise of what to do.Lost at heart, Samantha  http://www.cancercompass.com/message-board/message/all,24840,0.htm staceyvansc Mon, 09 Jun 2008 00:00:00 GMT My son is 17 and for the last 2 years his grades have slipped his attitude changed as well as his energy level. He finally came to me and ask to see a doctor about the lack of energy, so i took him. The first Doctor took a look at a general blood panel and said, well maybe he has, had a virus and what I am seeing is just a one time. So he ran the test again two weeks later. At that time he said his platlettes were low and his white blood cells were also low and that he had refffered my son to another Doctor and needed more test. This Doctor specializes in blood disorders and cancers. Well this Doctor works at the Cancer Center and ran enough test to feed 4 vampires, then called two days later wanting more test. But there has been no diagnoises. No one has said yes he has this so we are running this test, or we did not find anything yet so were gonna run this. Now my son has no pian, but has trouble gaining weight, eats like a horse and sleeps almost 75% of his day. He has and does not use drugs and does not have mono. Should I be worried? We do not go back till this week thursday anyone any ideas http://www.cancercompass.com/message-board/message/all,24839,0.htm SarcasticSevy Mon, 09 Jun 2008 00:00:00 GMT My name is Cayla. I am 19 years old and I lost my mom to colon cancer Feb. 29th 2008. I am still grieving over my mom and I miss her every day. But I fully believe that I was given this situation to help others. I want to help anyone that I can. My mom was my everything. She was my best friend and we shared everything. There isn't a day that passes that I don't think about her. But there are a few things that I wish she would've done before she passed to make things "easier". Please if you are serious about talking to me email me at PrincessCaylaRae@gmail.com. I check that alot more often than I do this. http://www.cancercompass.com/message-board/message/all,24579,0.htm VikingChic84 Sun, 01 Jun 2008 00:00:00 GMT My Mum is 79 and has cancer of the bowel, liver and lungs. She has had 6 rounds of oral chemo (oral due to her age) and a blood transfusion that has given her reasonable quality of life since diagnosis, till now. She has had a virus for the last two months. She can not continue her chemo as her body is run down. She recently came out for her birthday then had to recover in bed for the next five days. She has had 3 rounds of antibiotics, but it doesn't make any difference.Occasionally she has a mild temp.Any suggestions or do we just need to accept that this is the way it will be from now on? Does anyone know what she might be feeling and how we should support her and Dad who is 89, (they live in their own home) as she doesn't talk about  it much? http://www.cancercompass.com/message-board/message/all,24526,0.htm Aussiejane Thu, 29 May 2008 00:00:00 GMT I just had to share this story from my local paper in Cairns, Australia. This bloke is such a fighter, he's has so much cancer and now he's helping support an event that raises heaps of money to help fight cancer. I'm healthy and don't have half his strength.http://www.cairns.com.au/article/2008/05/27/4143_local-news. http://www.cancercompass.com/message-board/message/all,24392,0.htm Teresa G Mon, 26 May 2008 00:00:00 GMT hi my mother had breast cancer she had a mastectomy &lymph nodes removed and she's still in alot of pain her doctor saids it nothing that she can do my mother is 78 yrs old and now the doctor is saying the cancer maybe in her colon.  it has taken a toll on my mother she's always tried and she can't do anything anymore.  so now iam not able to work because i have to take care of her which iam very happy to do. but now iam suffering financial i cannot pay any of my bills and everyone is calling and coming to the house because they want to get paid. i don't know what to do. is there any type of system or orangzation the can help me. please help. iam trying to be strong for my mother but it is very hard. http://www.cancercompass.com/message-board/message/all,24234,0.htm jaybaby50 Wed, 21 May 2008 00:00:00 GMT