CancerCompass message board discussion started by Jeremy on 4/3/2007 http://www.cancercompass.com/message-board/message/all,10973,0.htm Sun, 07 Sep 2008 00:00:00 GMT Sun, 07 Sep 2008 00:00:00 GMT http://backend.userland.com/rss RSS.NET: http://www.rssdotnet.com/ I met I girl a few months back that is absolutely amazing.  We started dating and it became serious very fast.  We fell for each other hard and both felt like we were supposed to be together.  Soon after things became serious she let me know that she has been battling cancer for 10 years.  She has a tumor near her brain.  She had already been through treatment for it twice.  She tried to break up with me explaining that I didnt deserve to be with someone that was at risk and that she didnt want me to get hurt.  I refused to let that happen so we continued to see each other.  We grew closer until one day she had to go to the hospital because she was having bad symptoms again.  Appearantly her cell count was bad again so her Dr. has put her on some medicine that is pretty rough.  Since her health has declined she did break up with me because she didnt want the stress of a relationship making things worse.  I respected that and backed off a bit so that she wouldnt worry about me.  I told her that I will keep things calm while she is going through this, but I am not leaving her.  I still consider her my girlfriend and have not even thought about leaving or being with anyone else.  She keeps me at a distance, but I try to let her know that I am there for her and still love her.  I really only talk to her when her pain medication wears off and she cant sleep.  I have only seen her a few times in last couple months.  I dont mind doing this, but she is very stubborn and will not let me help her or really be there for her.  All she is able to do anymore is work and sleep.  I have explained that I would like to do anything to make her life easier, but she will not let me in.  I have never dealt with anything like this before, so I would just like some advice on her to get closer to her.  She feels like she may not make it through this time and does not want me to get too attached, but it is too late for that.  I want to be there for her no matter what happens, but she will not let me do that.  Help! Jeremy Tue, 03 Apr 2007 00:00:00 GMT Jeremy,My heart goes out to both of you. Try to continue your contact as much as your girlfriend will allow; cards, notes, flowers if possible. Although she has your best interests at heart, I believe she needs a special someone in her life. Keep your spirits up and stand by her as best you can. Good luck. MrsAl Wed, 07 Nov 2007 00:00:00 GMT