CancerCompass message board discussion started by Threeboys on 4/7/2007 http://www.cancercompass.com/message-board/message/all,11113,0.htm Mon, 08 Sep 2008 00:00:00 GMT Mon, 08 Sep 2008 00:00:00 GMT http://backend.userland.com/rss RSS.NET: http://www.rssdotnet.com/ My husband died six months ago after fighting lung cancer for three years. If my anger and attitude could have kept him alive forever it should have. We were togeter for 37years[he was 58 when he died] It's too late for me and my sons now i think the pain won't ever go .Dave was the love of my life....why has in this day and age some way of treating cancer been found. Dave went through gruelling chemo and radio theraphy without real conplaint and at the end of the day it acheive nothing Why...please don't tell me it was Gods reason because i don't buy that one  Threeboys Sat, 07 Apr 2007 00:00:00 GMT I'm very sorry for your loss.  I really have no words to offer you comfort other than I'm sorry and to acknowledge your loss.  I lost my mother 4 months ago, after a 8 month battle with pancreatic cancer.  Cancer is an awful, awful thing. Angel24 Mon, 09 Apr 2007 00:00:00 GMT I am so sorry for your loss. There are really no words that can really comfort much at all. I wish there were. I agree with you that cancer is not from God. He doesn't cause it and He doesn't cure it. Cancer has causes that we just cannot always explain, and unfortunately, there are certain types of cancer that grow so fast and so furious that they can't be stopped. I honestly think that if it can't be completely removed, then there never really is a cure. My mom died of a Grade IV brain tumor 9/20/06, and she lived 10 months to the day from when she awakened with symptoms. Like you, my dad is heartbroken and the love of his life suffered and is gone, and his future is shattered. He is staying busy and trying to get through each day, but it's hard. He says that he sometimes cries while he works. My mom was 65 when she died. She experienced what she knew to be her last Thanksgiving, Christmas, birthday, Valentine's Day, Easter, 4th of July, my birthday, Spring and Summer, and Mother's Day. She knew at each of these days that it would be her last one, and it was so hard to be strong for her, but her strength kept us strong. Your question about "why" we don't have cures yet...I think this is just part of life, and we really don't know why some people die at younger ages than others. It's hard to understand why we can't all make it to old age, but if we did, it would be even harder, I believe. One thing my dad said was that when we marry, we know that one spouse will most likely die before the other, but no one thinks it will happen at an early age, and most of us hope that we go the day before our spouse. That way we don't have to live one day without them. It's just awful, and it is the worst thing that we will probably ever experience, but we have to go on and we have to continue to live and to accept that we do. And I know that this is no real comfort, but just hopefully some confirmation of what you are feeling. Many people go through their entire lives never knowing that special love, and I'm so glad that you had such a special husband. Madeline Ruth Wed, 11 Apr 2007 00:00:00 GMT I feel very sorry for your loss. My sweet sister passed away from Ovarian Cancer at the age of 36. Her son was only 7 years old! It was very very painful and now 6 years later I still have that pain. My only comfort was and is in God, Who knows the end from the beginning. There is a hope that I will see my sister again. God promised to bring back to life those who died in Him, and  in His promises I can trust because He is not a lier.God has nothing to do with cancer. Bible teaches us that Satan is the reason of diseases and sufferings and death. God  is not the initiator of it. Very often people are sick as a result of their own choses in lifestyle and diet. Statistically 65% of cancers are linked directly to the type of diet. For example people on vegetarian ( especially vegan diet) are less likely to develop cancers of any type. Their risk is very very  low. People who drink alkalized ionized water are also having very very small risk. Why? Because cancer cells can't live in the alkaline environment!!! This is a good news for me( because genetically I am at risk: my mom, sister grandma, aunt had cancer)  and my little girl and for my husband and those loved ones who are still alive. So take an action against cancer in your hands, help yourself and help others to avoid it. Make a true reform in your lifestyle and diet and you will be a blessing for others. Trust in God. No human can comfort us as He can. Read the Bible. There is hope. There is sunshine behind the dark clouds. There is somebody to live for : your children, grandchildren, friends....).  I have been researching everything there is to know to avoid cancer in my own life. You can do it for those loved ones who are alive. I did purchase an amazing water ionizer from a website called www.H2OpH.com. I bought the Orion unit because I like the stainless steel look and it has the most options. When I got it my husband tested it being skeptical. They sent a pH test kit and we were very surprised when our water turned yellow which told us that our water was 5.5 pH( very acidic - perfect for cancer to grow). Then when we installed the water ionizer we tested our water again and it was purple which meant a pH of 9.5-10.  A number of things did change immediately in my life which was more red in my lips and in the inside of my eyelid (a sign of much better oxygenation in the blood) and I also slept through the night without waking up which I never read about as a benefit but I sure was happy to receive that added blessing. I chose the Jupiter line from www.H2OpH.com because those are the line of water ionizers that Dr Robert Young recommends. First we were looking at the Enagic machines for $3000-4000 but were so excited to find the Jupiter Orion for $1495. We are so happy now and I know that the website I bought my machine on has a l good information on cancer and alkalized water  and a great selection of videos. Don't forget information is empowering.....I have  powerful books about life of Jesus, A MUST to read! Eyeopening! Those brought a hope and light instead of despair and depression after my loss. I can send them to you if you would like. I wish you the best, may God bless you abundantly Svetlana Svetlana Tue, 24 Apr 2007 00:00:00 GMT My husband died 1st June and I still can't believe it - we have 2 children 3 & 1 and he was 37 - I had to put him in a hospice for the last month which was the hardest thing I have ever had to do.  Think what he would want - our lives have changed so much and the painful memories are easier to recall than the good ones but we have to try.  I am very lonely and angry but keep going for the children.  I am in the UK and we had no insurance so I now have no money and no husband and 2 children to support.  I have a star in my garden that shines the brightest every night and I talk to it every night - it is Nick - he is on my shoulder.  Look for the strength in you - it is there - but if you are like me you feel too tired to find it - keep looking and good luck x 5ccelauren Tue, 17 Jul 2007 00:00:00 GMT