CancerCompass message board discussion started by Amorvenicito on 7/8/2007 http://www.cancercompass.com/message-board/message/all,14170,0.htm Wed, 27 Aug 2008 00:00:00 GMT Wed, 27 Aug 2008 00:00:00 GMT http://backend.userland.com/rss RSS.NET: http://www.rssdotnet.com/ My mom passed away almost a year ago due to cancer in the bile duct.I'm really just looking for people to talk to about it, people with expierence and emotional envolvement with this type of cancer. please. i really just need SOMEONE. she was 58, and had the cancer for about 1 1/2 years. the end was really bad, we put her in hospice and she went into a 17 day coma. i was 14 at the time, im now 15. Amorvenicito Sun, 08 Jul 2007 00:00:00 GMT you should visit www.cholangiocarcinoma.org  Gbcdad Sun, 08 Jul 2007 00:00:00 GMT  On 7/8/2007 Amorvenicito wrote:My mom passed away almost a year ago due to cancer in the bile duct.I'm really just looking for people to talk to about it, people with expierence and emotional envolvement with this type of cancer. please. i really just need SOMEONE. she was 58, and had the cancer for about 1 1/2 years. the end was really bad, we put her in hospice and she went into a 17 day coma. i was 14 at the time, im now 15. I am Iris, and I live in the Netherlands. I like to respond to your message. I am so very sorry for your loss. Fifteen is just too young to miss your mother.I am 61 years old and so is my husband. He is suffering from the same cancer and we have only a few months left. We were looking for him to become 65 and not work any more. So we could do nice things, for our health looked so good. And from one day to another this changed.We are trying to stay optimistic, because we had a wonderful life and have two beautiful grown-up sons. And that is what I am trying to give you as comfort. You had your mom fifteen years and though that is too short, try to be happy for those years you did have her and you loved her and she loved you. Allways think of her with a smile, because that is what she would want you to do.People that die are not gone. It's the memory that keeps her alive.I wish you all the strength and should you want to contact me more, please feel free to do so.Love, Iris.  Flower1 Tue, 10 Jul 2007 00:00:00 GMT  On 7/8/2007 Amorvenicito wrote:My mom passed away almost a year ago due to cancer in the bile duct.I'm really just looking for people to talk to about it, people with expierence and emotional envolvement with this type of cancer. please. i really just need SOMEONE. she was 58, and had the cancer for about 1 1/2 years. the end was really bad, we put her in hospice and she went into a 17 day coma. i was 14 at the time, im now 15. This is a good message board that you and I have found.  I am 55 years old, 2 sons ages 27 and 30.  Oncologist has given me "3 to 6 months" but what does he know?  I am in month number 2 right now.  Would love to see Christmas.  The cancer has spread.  I have 2 metal stents and good pain management that keep me going.  As a matter of fact, haven't felt this good in months at the moment but I know that can come crashing down.  I will have home hospice and I can't say enough wonderful things about these ladies.  Try to focus on the good....the good times...the smiles...the little private things that were talked about.  I am reading Final Gifts right now.  Interesting little stories.Photo albums sure do help....pamngreenvillesc    Pamngreenvillesc Fri, 13 Jul 2007 00:00:00 GMT I am so sorry for your loss.  Why dont you say what you are feeling and we can see if we can help?  Also you need to try to find a grief group or talk to pastor or rabbi Chrissy m Fri, 13 Jul 2007 00:00:00 GMT Hello, I am so sorry about your loss.  I lost my dad about a year and a half ago to bile duct cancer.  I was 21 years old.  I've been feeling the same way.  I've been missing him  a lot lately.  I don't know how to deal with it.  I think about him everyday, and it feels like he just died.  I don't know what to write to make you feel better, because I don't know how to do that myself.  There are people on this board to listen if you need to talk about your mom.  I wish you well, and hope for things to get better.  Audra Tue, 17 Jul 2007 00:00:00 GMT Bless your heart...I lost my sweet mama to this deadly nasty cancer on April 1st of this past year.  It has been 5 months and it's been so painful.  She was diagnosed pretty much 6 months to the day she died.  I miss her so much and can totally relate to you honey except that I am 36.  It must be so hard to be so young and have to experience this huge loss.  I would like to pray for you and encourage you.  You can email me any time you feel sad and I will respond.  My email address is --Message edited by CancerCompass staff. For personal protection, email address removed. Consider private reply. Please review CancerCompass Member Guidelines at http://www.cancercompass.com/common/guidelines.html--  .  It's okay to cry and feel the pain...When I found out about the tumor last OCt.  I spent every weekend with her and when she got real bad I moved back in with my parents to be with her and hospice the last 2 weeks.  This is a journey sweetie and it will take time...allow yourself to heal and feel the pain.  I feel the pain right along with you.  My mom was my very best friend and the best nana to my children.  God bless you honey.  - Vicky Temeku Mama Tue, 11 Sep 2007 00:00:00 GMT