CancerCompass message board discussion started by Sally111 on 8/22/2007 http://www.cancercompass.com/message-board/message/all,15532,0.htm Fri, 29 Aug 2008 00:00:00 GMT Fri, 29 Aug 2008 00:00:00 GMT http://backend.userland.com/rss RSS.NET: http://www.rssdotnet.com/ HELP, no one believes I have cancer, or are avoiding me. At first I thought just a few, I dont get it, I wouldnt consider myself someone who people wouldnt believe. My ex boyfriend, now friend, I asked him to be with me the day before my doctor visit, he never showed up, started yelling at me how I was being an emotionally blackmailing suck, etc. My other best friends, a married couple, they knew I had cancer, I just never told them which kind, due to privacy reasons as we work in the same building. The other day, she told me that they found it hard to take me seriously when it comes to my CANCER, becuase i never say the kind. And my other friend, I told him I was going in for my first chemo and I was scared and if he could sit with me the day before and watch a movie or anything to get my mind off it, he works in the same building as me, a friend of 5 years, he isnt returning my calls now, he avoids me if he sees me at work, and he didnt call the day before I started. I wear a wig now, and its like, what the heck? No one believes me????? What do I do, I am so alone, and all my friends dont believe me. Has this happened to anyoneelse?? What did you do, I was thinking of getting my medical records and shoving them in their faces. Sally111 Wed, 22 Aug 2007 00:00:00 GMT Sally,I am sorry you aren't getting the support you need from those around you.  Many people do not know how to support or act with someone who has cancer.  I noticed that when my daughter was diagnosed third time w/ovarian cancer.  I have found many support groups in my community who have gone through the same treatments, feelings, loneliness, etc.  I encourage you to check with your healthcare provider, American Cancer Society, and/or hospitals.  There are many support groups out there.  Remember you need all the energy you can muster to get through this time.  Trying to make people give to you what they cannot give makes for a frustrating time for both you and your acquaintances.You might try praying too.  God loves you very much and will direct your path.  He promises to do that when we call on Him.Best wishes,Pam Pamklinger Thu, 06 Sep 2007 00:00:00 GMT