CancerCompass message board discussion started by gabby54 on 9/24/2007 http://www.cancercompass.com/message-board/message/all,16439,0.htm Fri, 05 Sep 2008 00:00:00 GMT Fri, 05 Sep 2008 00:00:00 GMT http://backend.userland.com/rss RSS.NET: http://www.rssdotnet.com/ My brother has stage 1V stomach cancer it has gone to his lungs  he will not let the dr. oper. he tells me he fills no pain  he drinks alot, is using a walker and or wheelchair  my bro. is 48 yrs old he can only eat very soft foods i am his care giver so if theres any one out there that can tell me what is next please email me back he will not stop drinking but he trys his best to be a good person its hard for me to see my brother like this i will take care of him till the end of his life gabby54 Mon, 24 Sep 2007 00:00:00 GMT No cancer patient is exactly alike but maybe this will help you. My mother has Stage IV and it has gone to her lungs also.  She is getting fluid in her lungs from the cancer.  They put a Denver catheter in there to drain the fluid so that she will be able to breathe.  It is very painful for her (they say its normally not painful, but for her it is excruciatingly so) when the catheters were installed (both lungs) and also painful when they drain the fluid.  But if they didn't drain it, she wouldn't be able to breathe.  It is like suffocating and not pleasant at all.  She is on continuous morphine to help with the pain and is currently too weak to even take care of herself.You can get a hospice nurse who will help you bathe, change diapers, clean dressings, empty fluids, etc and suggest you do so you are not completely stressed out yourself and able to enjoy your brother's company while you still have him here. goofpuff Mon, 24 Sep 2007 00:00:00 GMT thank you so much ``we are calling hospice later today gabby54 Tue, 25 Sep 2007 00:00:00 GMT