CancerCompass message board discussion started by scareddaughter on 10/8/2007 http://www.cancercompass.com/message-board/message/all,16895,0.htm Wed, 08 Oct 2008 00:00:00 GMT Wed, 08 Oct 2008 00:00:00 GMT http://backend.userland.com/rss RSS.NET: http://www.rssdotnet.com/ I cant believe this is happening.  I'm mad that my mom never quit smoking and I'm so sad that she had cancer.  The doctors havent told her how bad it is yet. theysaid that she has a tumer that's cancer near her heart and the cancer has spread to her lymth nodes but there still doing tests. Shes talking like she gonna die soon.  Shes caughing up blood and she had a collaped lung that is not healing.  Her new husband has totally lost it and my brothrers are in denial Not Helping!  I could really use some advise My mom is only 59 I love her so much.  Please help me.  Dont BS me I can hadle the truth.  Thanks scareddaughter Mon, 08 Oct 2007 00:00:00 GMT  On 10/8/2007 scareddaughter wrote:I cant believe this is happening.  I'm mad that my mom never quit smoking and I'm so sad that she had cancer.  The doctors havent told her how bad it is yet. theysaid that she has a tumer that's cancer near her heart and the cancer has spread to her lymth nodes but there still doing tests. Shes talking like she gonna die soon.  Shes caughing up blood and she had a collaped lung that is not healing.  Her new husband has totally lost it and my brothrers are in denial Not Helping!  I could really use some advise My mom is only 59 I love her so much.  Please help me.  Dont BS me I can hadle the truth.  Thanks My mother died on Septmeber 29, 2007.  Signs that your Mom has do not look good. I wish you strength and hope she gts better but if she doesn't the greatest gift is to be with her til the end.  And you dont have to always be strong.  Let yourself have a good cry now now and again.  She is your Mom and it is very hard for you.  You are in my prayers Chrissy m Wed, 10 Oct 2007 00:00:00 GMT I know I am older than you are, but I am a scared daughter too.  I was told that I would lose both of my parents on the same awful day in August.  I too wish my mother had never picked up a cigarette.  I'm not sure which parent I will lose first, but each day is difficult.I don't know what type of cancer your mother has, but I found help as to what to expect from www.brainhospice.com.  The stages of death are spelled out so you know what to expect.  There's no BS.  They tell it like many people have told me will happen.As far as your mother not knowing.  My mother has not been informed either.  My dad was told stage IV and they used the words terminal, but nothing since August.  I'm not sure how much to tell either of my parents.  I do know that my dad is full steam ahead with radiation, therapy and rehab.  I however, see many of the signs of death approaching.  If I say it aloud, from what I've read, he'll deteriorate and give up sooner.  So I've kept my mouth shut so I can selfishly take in every conversation, everyone one of his silly jokes for as long as I can.Try to enjoy your mom.  Try to stay calm.  Try to smile. I'll be praying for you.Cheryl Cheryl Z Sun, 21 Oct 2007 00:00:00 GMT