CancerCompass message board discussion started by jeffsmom on 11/21/2007 http://www.cancercompass.com/message-board/message/all,18150,0.htm Fri, 10 Oct 2008 00:00:00 GMT Fri, 10 Oct 2008 00:00:00 GMT http://backend.userland.com/rss RSS.NET: http://www.rssdotnet.com/ It will be a year from x-mas eve 2006 when my son was rushed into surgery for colon cancer at age of 42.  Many months of recovery...then the cemo...the cemo did not kill him..(they stopped it just begore... for the aggresive amount became too much for even a strong man).but now the pain in feet..hands..cold...can not put head toward chest...or he convolsess or goes into sesirzer...sleeps ....He will not complain...just takes care of...cooks for...washes clothes...helps with homework..for he .is single father of a 12 yr...8 yr...and 3 yr old...He tells me not to worry, because he will beat this....I drive straight 12 hours one way to help with holidays...or when I can just leave work...which is not often...I am 65 and still need to work to help with his support...but I do not know the prognosis of this illness, since he will not tell me "don't worry mom, I am OK.!!" Has anyone had these horrid after chemo pain?  He cannot walk, because of the pain in his feet...he is cold...shaking cold...cannot look down without spas...cannot sleep...(he will not take sleep medication because the kids may need help...during the night...and he does not want to be unconsious(please forgive my spelling...I am not stupid...just dyslecsic)...I want to have a "pen pal"with the same terror to face...and maybe help me to get thru this...I could help another mother to understand a son that continues to try to be the strong one....I do not expect a miracle...for the prayer chains are out there for him in so many languages and faiths...but I am still just a mother...scared...scared///SCARED..... jeffsmom Wed, 21 Nov 2007 00:00:00 GMT Hi,I am a survivor as well as a parent of two young girls. I was diagnosed with colon cancer in dec of 2005. I can understand what you must go through to watch your son cope. I also feel for you as a mother. I'm sure your heart must break to see him trying to manage. I also have pain in my feet. Its the worst first thing in the morning when I wake up , then after a while it gets bearable. I 've gotten so used to it that its become a part of me. We learn to bear so much. Your son sounds like he is a very strong person. Its difficult to look after young kids as well as yourself. My prayers are with you and your son. Its an ongoing fight. Everyday is different but we must find the courage to stand up and fight.love sarada  Sarada Wed, 21 Nov 2007 00:00:00 GMT  On 11/21/2007 Sarada wrote:Hi,I am a survivor as well as a parent of two young girls. I was diagnosed with colon cancer in dec of 2005. I can understand what you must go through to watch your son cope. I also feel for you as a mother. I'm sure your heart must break to see him trying to manage. I also have pain in my feet. Its the worst first thing in the morning when I wake up , then after a while it gets bearable. I 've gotten so used to it that its become a part of me. We learn to bear so much. Your son sounds like he is a very strong person. Its difficult to look after young kids as well as yourself. My prayers are with you and your son. Its an ongoing fight. Everyday is different but we must find the courage to stand up and fight.love sarada Hello  Sarada,Thank you for your kind words and prayers for my son.  You are now in mine.  I do admire you for the strengh you show by caring for your childeren and looking forward to the future.  I would like to hear how you are doing and will look forward to any message you may send...Best regards, Kathy.  jeffsmom Fri, 23 Nov 2007 00:00:00 GMT Could yoy look at my most recent post and tell me if you took the chemo meds he is on? jeffsmom Thu, 10 Apr 2008 00:00:00 GMT Hello Sandra.......It is spring and the birds are back and you are in my prayer....and the "girls".....let me know if I can help in anyway...just a note or just a "pen pal"... jeffsmom Fri, 11 Apr 2008 00:00:00 GMT