CancerCompass message board discussion started by Momlynn on 3/15/2008 http://www.cancercompass.com/message-board/message/all,22019,0.htm Tue, 07 Oct 2008 00:00:00 GMT Tue, 07 Oct 2008 00:00:00 GMT http://backend.userland.com/rss RSS.NET: http://www.rssdotnet.com/ Hello All:  I continue to monitor the boards and respond when I can.  I just want to update you all on my progress.  I am still under medical care and am still seeing my grief counsellor but I am steadily making progress towards a "new normal" life.  Of course, I do understand that life will never be the same without my beloved son, but I am moving on.  The monument that his wife and I chose was delivered about 2 weeks ago ( we finally had a day without a lot of snow when the truck could get in) and we are all very pleased with it.On Tuesday March 11th I went into the law firm and spoke to my immediate boss, Paul, and the senior partner, Art, and I told them that I was retiring 16 months earlier than I had planned to do.  I told them that I felt really strongly about this and that I was doing what I thought was best for both the firm and for me and my family.  I am now officially retired.Robbie's wife, Maria, and his 2 little girls and I spent the past 3 days in Niagara Falls at an indoor waterpark and I feel that I am doing what I promised I would do for Robbie.  My husband, Rob, has told me since Robbie passed away that I should retire but I came to this decision on my own in my own time.  I have called the local cancer society and I will begin volunteering there in the fall.  They understand that I may need to leave at any time to be with Robbie's girls and they are still really pleased to have me there.  My doctor and my grief counsellor have both told me that I am beginning to live my "new normal" life.  I realize fully that life will never again be the same for me but I feel that by volunteering with the cancer society I am honouring Robbie's memory and also I am keeping my promise to him that I would help with his children and wife.My husband, Rob, was very pleased to hear my final decision and everyone seemed to understand at the law firm.  I feel that I will now be able to go and visit my co-workers without feeling that everyone is wondering when I am coming back to work.God bless you all for the strength and help you have given to me throughout Robbie's battle and his passing and I will continue to visit the boards and will continue to pray for you all.Love Lynn   Momlynn Sat, 15 Mar 2008 00:00:00 GMT Hi Lynn-Glad you were able to decide what to do about your job.I know it was a difficult choice for you to make. It sounds like you are doing as well as you can after this kind of experience, and I'm glad to hear it. I've been wondering about you and how things were going for you, Maria and the kids. Glad you got off to take a little break with them. I'm sure Robbie would be really proud of you, how well you are doing, how helpful you are with his wife and kids, and how hard you are working to get back back up and function again. You will all remain in my prayers. tongrenhealer Sun, 16 Mar 2008 00:00:00 GMT