CancerCompass message board discussion started by Littlering on 4/16/2008 http://www.cancercompass.com/message-board/message/all,23135,0.htm Mon, 01 Dec 2008 00:00:00 GMT Mon, 01 Dec 2008 00:00:00 GMT http://backend.userland.com/rss RSS.NET: http://www.rssdotnet.com/ My husband battled brain cancer for 3 1/2 years.  He had good days and bad days, but he always stayed positive and always had a smile on his face. His doctor told him once he was going to have to come to see him every week to make him laugh.  This is not an easy battle to fight, but he fought until the end.  He went to a better place on March 10, 2008.  He was dx  Sept. 2004. He was 54 years old when he was dx and 57 when he died.   On Sunday night he was eating at the table with us, even though he was in a hospital bed,  he wanted up to go eat.  On Monday he was sleeping a lot and seemed as though he had a headache.  We gave him his first morphine and later in the day we gave him another dose of morphine.  In the afternoon he opened his eyes looked at me and said I Love You.  He hadn't been talking the last several days.  What a gift he gave me. After that he feel into a coma and at 10:20 that night he was gone.   He was on his steroids and Keppra up until the last day.  That is the only day he didn't get his medicine. He never seemed to get fretful.  We were married for 33 wonderful years and had a very special relationship.  I miss him so much I can hardly stand it sometimes. As I say we have been through a lot and I would be glad to help anyone anyway I could if you have questions. Janice       Littlering Wed, 16 Apr 2008 00:00:00 GMT I am so sorry for your loss and extend my deepest condolences. God bless you and your family. May your husband rest in peace. welovedad Thu, 17 Apr 2008 00:00:00 GMT Hi Janice, First of all my deepest condolences on your loss.  I too lost my mother on 3/2/08 from metastatic uterine cancer to the lungs and brain.  It was the brain cancer that actually took her life.I understand how difficult it was for you to watch a vibrant man get more and more helpless each and every day.  That was the same thing that happened to my mom. I miss her more each day as well.  I do take peace in the fact that she is in a far better place now (as well as your husband).  You are in my thoughts and prayers.Joe Joe From New York Thu, 17 Apr 2008 00:00:00 GMT Janice, May I express my sympathy for you and your family.  As sad as death is, if there is any sunshine to your story it is that your husband was able to express his love for you up to the last day.  What a happy ending, if there is such a thing, to such a long, brave struggle for the both of you. I will be facing a similar situation I am told, someday in the future as my wife of 32 years has metastatic brain cancer, CUP, with multiple tumors that were treated nearly a year ago.  Even as her strength wanes we live for the best of each day.  I pray we can say I love you to each other one last time, as you were able to, before she leaves. Michael ohimick Thu, 17 Apr 2008 00:00:00 GMT Yours is a sad but wonderful story.  You have been greatly blessed by many happy years together, and I pray that God grants you peace and healing for yourself now.  It is a difficult journey we are all traveling together.  Thank you for letting us share the burden of your grief just a little, but thank you also for sharing the beauty of your husband's final "I love you."  We are all facing the same fears, and it is good to know that the end can be peaceful for our loved ones.Jackiekay jackiekay Thu, 17 Apr 2008 00:00:00 GMT  On 4/16/2008 Littlering wrote:My husband battled brain cancer for 3 1/2 years.  He had good days and bad days, but he always stayed positive and always had a smile on his face. His doctor told him once he was going to have to come to see him every week to make him laugh.  This is not an easy battle to fight, but he fought until the end.  He went to a better place on March 10, 2008.  He was dx  Sept. 2004. He was 54 years old when he was dx and 57 when he died.   On Sunday night he was eating at the table with us, even though he was in a hospital bed,  he wanted up to go eat.  On Monday he was sleeping a lot and seemed as though he had a headache.  We gave him his first morphine and later in the day we gave him another dose of morphine.  In the afternoon he opened his eyes looked at me and said I Love You.  He hadn't been talking the last several days.  What a gift he gave me. After that he feel into a coma and at 10:20 that night he was gone.   He was on his steroids and Keppra up until the last day.  That is the only day he didn't get his medicine. He never seemed to get fretful.  We were married for 33 wonderful years and had a very special relationship.  I miss him so much I can hardly stand it sometimes. As I say we have been through a lot and I would be glad to help anyone anyway I could if you have questions. Janice      My sympathy and prayers are with you and your family.My husband has kidney cancer,he is 50,got dx nov.06.It scares me to think life without my husband.Thank-you for your sweet story,I went and told my husband {I Love You} which lately I have been saying it alot.Please keep us posted.                                                                Rally 53 rally53 Thu, 17 Apr 2008 00:00:00 GMT I am so sorry for your loss!I lost my husband 12/10/07 to brain cancer.  8 days before he passed we had the best day we had had in months, talking, laughing and getting ready for Christmas.  I will cherish that day forever!Thank you for sharing your memory!Cindy   cindystar Thu, 17 Apr 2008 00:00:00 GMT Janice,I am so sorry for your loss.  As I am watching my Mother, 59 when diagnosed, 62 now, lose her battle to this horrible disease, I am comforted by the fact you were able to have a good day and say "I love you".  My Mom is having all kinds of issues with her heart and lungs now, they told us it won't be long.  We had a wonderful day Tuesday, she was out of her hospital bed, ate lunch with her family (all of her children took the day off by coincidence) and was happy.  Since that day it's been downhill.  I am just hoping for a peaceful passing, she is in so much pain on a regular basis now, it's horrible to watch.I hope you find comfort in your memories and love.Sincerely,Mommgbm60  Mommgbm60 Thu, 17 Apr 2008 00:00:00 GMT im sorry to hear about your husband my husband was diagnosed with glioblastoma in jan 08 and has 60 % of the tumor remove and went thur with chemo and rasation and now he dont talk and just is in his on little  world he just turned 60 today and we will be married 36 years may 3 please keep us in your prayers and i will you suebg Thu, 17 Apr 2008 00:00:00 GMT I'm so sorry for your loss, Janice. This awful disease steals so many years from us and the ones we love...all those years we should've had together.You're in my thoughts.  Hyacinths Fri, 18 Apr 2008 00:00:00 GMT  On 4/16/2008 Littlering wrote:My husband battled brain cancer for 3 1/2 years.  He had good days and bad days, but he always stayed positive and always had a smile on his face. His doctor told him once he was going to have to come to see him every week to make him laugh.  This is not an easy battle to fight, but he fought until the end.  He went to a better place on March 10, 2008.  He was dx  Sept. 2004. He was 54 years old when he was dx and 57 when he died.   On Sunday night he was eating at the table with us, even though he was in a hospital bed,  he wanted up to go eat.  On Monday he was sleeping a lot and seemed as though he had a headache.  We gave him his first morphine and later in the day we gave him another dose of morphine.  In the afternoon he opened his eyes looked at me and said I Love You.  He hadn't been talking the last several days.  What a gift he gave me. After that he feel into a coma and at 10:20 that night he was gone.   He was on his steroids and Keppra up until the last day.  That is the only day he didn't get his medicine. He never seemed to get fretful.  We were married for 33 wonderful years and had a very special relationship.  I miss him so much I can hardly stand it sometimes. As I say we have been through a lot and I would be glad to help anyone anyway I could if you have questions. Janice      I am sorry that you, your husband, and family have had to go through this terrible disease.  My husband is courageously losiing his battle to GBM.  I cherish each moment I have with him.  It is awful seeing him go from a strong healthy intelligent man to one that feels so helpless and can't remember.  This disease takes everything away from the person going through it.  I'm told that he will lose his sight.  How awful for someone to be so confused and then not be able to see around him.  I pray that when his time comes he will go quietly.  Is it so wrong to pray that God takes him quietly before he goes blind?    Aacddd3 Sat, 19 Apr 2008 00:00:00 GMT