CancerCompass message board discussion started by Bantutin on 4/19/2008 http://www.cancercompass.com/message-board/message/all,23204,0.htm Mon, 01 Dec 2008 00:00:00 GMT Mon, 01 Dec 2008 00:00:00 GMT http://backend.userland.com/rss RSS.NET: http://www.rssdotnet.com/ My father passed away yesterday at 2:20 pm. He was a warrior and fought to the last days. He was diagnosed with CUP with mets to brain this past January. I placed him in Hopsice  by his wishes 2 days prior. He underwent 18 WBR treatments about two weeks before he passed. He lost his appetite about 1 month ago and became increasingly tired. He would sleep the majority of the days but my only comfort is that he was mentally with it the whole time. I placed him in a hospice home and they were wonderfull. He was at peace there. He knew he was going to die and accepted it and made peace with everyone. I wanted to see him this weekend but he left early. I prayed for a fast,peaceful and painless journey and I praise the Lord for my gift. A priest came to  pray over his body at his final hour. The priest knew my father's brother who was in the semenary together. My father's brother Albert passed  away by drowning while studying to be a priest when he was 14 years old and roomed with this priest. It was if his brother sent this priest for his last rights. My father never met this priest before. I pray for my father to be taken to heaven and will mourn forever. His name is Leonard. Tell your love ones that you love them as much as you can and give them lots of hugs....My prayers go out to all who suffer.Vern     Bantutin Sat, 19 Apr 2008 00:00:00 GMT The burden of being human if we are lucky enough to experience it, is to care for and then bury our parents.  I lost my father this past December.  His body simply gave out but he too, had his wits about him until the last day.  Never cheated, he lived to be 92. I am interested in your post because it is the first one I've seen about a patient with brain mets with a CUP.  My wife had 5 brain tumors treated a year ago March.  Hers too, is a CUP.  I am sure her age gives her an advantage over your father as far as survival and prognosis, however hers still is very questionable.Thank you for sharing a very positive story about a very peaceful exit at the end of the journey.  It gives me comfort as I worry about my wife's next 6 months. ohimick Sat, 19 Apr 2008 00:00:00 GMT I'm so sorry for your loss...but it sounds like your father was ready and at peace, and that is a gift that many aren't granted.I hope you have many happy memories of your father to help you through your grief.  Hyacinths Sat, 19 Apr 2008 00:00:00 GMT My friend my prays go to your father and for you too. having a family member going through this monster and just to be able to see them slowly go away is painful. But your father is in a better place now, no more pain, suffering and more pain. Remember, your father will always live in your heart and soul..his blood runs through your heart..he will never go away. But life must continue as painful as it is. Find your happiness again and wait for that beautiful moment when u will reunite with him...and you will be happy again my dear friend..i feel your pain. Kewlsense Kewlsense Tue, 22 Apr 2008 00:00:00 GMT