CancerCompass message board discussion started by RhondaH on 4/20/2008 http://www.cancercompass.com/message-board/message/all,23252,0.htm Sun, 06 Jul 2008 00:00:00 GMT Sun, 06 Jul 2008 00:00:00 GMT http://backend.userland.com/rss RSS.NET: http://www.rssdotnet.com/ Mom passed away 04/14/08 in Peace Hospice from stomach cancer that was diagnosed  01/2008.  It had spread so no surgery, chemo, or radiation was offered.  She discontinued her feeding tube and exactly one week later she lost her battle.  She spent the last two months fighting with grace and class, never complaining, and always had a "thank you" for everyone.  This came on so fast and ended so fast that I feel like I am living a dream.  Of course the funeral was a reality check but I know the hardest part is going to be when something wonderful happens with my kids and I won't be able to call and tell her the news, or when the firsts happen over the next year.Thank you to all of you who offered support to me through this and to those of you who said prayers and thoughts. Mom died very peacefully.  She had very little pain or nausea the entire time she was in Hospice and I believe all the prayers contributed to that.RhondaH RhondaH Sun, 20 Apr 2008 00:00:00 GMT  On 4/20/2008 RhondaH wrote:Mom passed away 04/14/08 in Peace Hospice from stomach cancer that was diagnosed  01/2008.  It had spread so no surgery, chemo, or radiation was offered.  She discontinued her feeding tube and exactly one week later she lost her battle.  She spent the last two months fighting with grace and class, never complaining, and always had a "thank you" for everyone.  This came on so fast and ended so fast that I feel like I am living a dream.  Of course the funeral was a reality check but I know the hardest part is going to be when something wonderful happens with my kids and I won't be able to call and tell her the news, or when the firsts happen over the next year.Thank you to all of you who offered support to me through this and to those of you who said prayers and thoughts. Mom died very peacefully.  She had very little pain or nausea the entire time she was in Hospice and I believe all the prayers contributed to that.RhondaHHello Rhonda,I am so sorry to learn that your mother lost this battle, but at the same time, I rejoice that she found eternal peace with little pain and nausea.  I, too have been in that 'dream' state you mention.  You will, in your own time, find your way out of it.   You will find your mother in little things on a daily basis.  Although you will not get to share news about your children with her in this world.  I do not believe she will miss a thing.  She is with my father and legions of other parents and grandparents and they are watching over us all.God bless you as venture once again into uncharted waters.  Michele Chi-girl Sun, 20 Apr 2008 00:00:00 GMT Dear Rhonda, I am so sorry you lost your wonderful mother.  She is in no more pain and knows eternal peace and comfort.  My husband Mike died February 22, 2008 to stomach cancer also and I call the dream "my nightmare".  It is so hard to believe they are not here with us physically, but they are here in spirit.  Know that your mom is with you and your children and watching over your family.  That offers some comfort.  God bless you.Diane Anniedips Mon, 21 Apr 2008 00:00:00 GMT Dearest Rhonda,My deepest condolences on the passing of your beloved Mom. I know personally how hard it is to lose that dearest woman in your life. Time will heal all of these terrible memories from the end of her life and will replace them with your fondest memories of your Mother. Be patient, it will come. Thank you for sharing her story.Peace and Love to you and your family,  Scott Eliot1 Mon, 21 Apr 2008 00:00:00 GMT I am truly sorry for your loss.  At least your mom is finally "cancer free".Please take care and know you are not alone. Keep Smiling... Mon, 21 Apr 2008 00:00:00 GMT  On 4/20/2008 RhondaH wrote:Mom passed away 04/14/08 in Peace Hospice from stomach cancer that was diagnosed  01/2008.  It had spread so no surgery, chemo, or radiation was offered.  She discontinued her feeding tube and exactly one week later she lost her battle.  She spent the last two months fighting with grace and class, never complaining, and always had a "thank you" for everyone.  This came on so fast and ended so fast that I feel like I am living a dream.  Of course the funeral was a reality check but I know the hardest part is going to be when something wonderful happens with my kids and I won't be able to call and tell her the news, or when the firsts happen over the next year.Thank you to all of you who offered support to me through this and to those of you who said prayers and thoughts. Mom died very peacefully.  She had very little pain or nausea the entire time she was in Hospice and I believe all the prayers contributed to that.RhondaH Rhonda, I am so sorry to hear about your mom's passing but I really hope that she is in a better place and at the very least we can say that she is not in pain or sufferring which I think is what we all fear the most more than death itself.  I pray that you are able to find some peace within your self as well as it is often the people that are left behind that we need to worry the most about......God bless you and I'm sure that if your mom were looking down on you right now she would tell you that it's okay and that she would want you to live the remainder of your life in peace and harmony.  I'm sure it will just take some time for you to digest all of this as it happened so fast.  Please be gentle with yourself and give yourself the time to grieve and know that it's okay to feel the way that you do.  I wish you peace and happiness and God bless you.Lila. LSUSAN Wed, 23 Apr 2008 00:00:00 GMT I am so sorry for your lost, but your mother suffers no more, I too lost my husband to stomach cancer , 5mts ago and my father to prostate, it stays with you , and you NEVER  forget, but I know they are around, and they see all , I talk to both of them and I know Im where Im at today, because of their guidance, she left a beautiful daughter, to continue on her legacy, which I feel that helps with the healing. god bless you. bullrita Wed, 23 Apr 2008 00:00:00 GMT RhondaH,I am so sorry for your loss. Your mom fought a brave battle, altho it was a short one. She is now in a wonderful place and I believe she will not miss any of the things you think she will. She will be with you forever and you will finds that things that happen are because of her. It may be a butterfly that lands on your shoe, or a rainbow in the middle of a cloudy day, or a laugh from one of your children. Shes just letting you know she is there and you are not alone. XOXO~Christine 2caret Sun, 27 Apr 2008 00:00:00 GMT