CancerCompass message board discussion started by Ericb on 11/17/2005 http://www.cancercompass.com/message-board/message/all,3516,0.htm Sat, 22 Nov 2008 00:00:00 GMT Sat, 22 Nov 2008 00:00:00 GMT http://backend.userland.com/rss RSS.NET: http://www.rssdotnet.com/ I've been in remission for close to 10 years, but the weight of my experiences still weighs very heavy on me. I often find that all my relationships end badly, and I often think it's because I don't feel like the people I'm with could ever understand a very important aspect of my life. Does anyone else feel like this? Ericb Thu, 17 Nov 2005 00:00:00 GMT I agree with this, some people just do not know even how to handle this discussion let alone be supportive. I think you will find the support groups are very benefical as there are people there who have been through the journey. Karen44 Tue, 22 Nov 2005 00:00:00 GMT word. thank you. Ericb Wed, 23 Nov 2005 00:00:00 GMT Almost as ugly as the disease it what it does to us emotionally. You can gather yourself up most days, but its like you know it might all be temporary - not good for relationships. I find that I withdraw at the slightest difficulty because I don't have the energy or maybe the time to sort it out. Lousy way to handle a relationship but the truth is I understand tomorrow is relative and today might be all there is. Beezie Fri, 23 Dec 2005 00:00:00 GMT So what do you think a solution could be to this? Ericb Fri, 23 Dec 2005 00:00:00 GMT I don't know what the answer is - if you talk about your cancer you wonder how much is self-pity and that is the last thing I want anyone to think is that "I can't do this" - now the loss of hair at one time seemed more monumental than the chemo - is that stupid or what? I wonder if we spent as much time dealing with a relationship as dealing with knowledge about our cancer if that would make it work. I just don't know, ericb, but I hope you figure it out and have a Happy New Year. It is nice to tell someone I don't have an answer and that I am a little frightened that I am alone but then I realize I was alone in the relationship. Let me know when you get the answer - share!!!! Beezie Mon, 26 Dec 2005 00:00:00 GMT