CancerCompass message board discussion started by Julie h. on 5/20/2006 http://www.cancercompass.com/message-board/message/all,5389,0.htm Wed, 03 Dec 2008 00:00:00 GMT Wed, 03 Dec 2008 00:00:00 GMT http://backend.userland.com/rss RSS.NET: http://www.rssdotnet.com/ This Is Julie H. Well my dad finally passed. The hospice nurse said he went quietly in his sleep. He was waiting for all his family to be there. Now I am saddened more. My mom and brother are having a very hard time with this. I know that he is in a better place now. But it hurts really bad. I am having a hard tome dealing with this myself. The doctor gave me xanax and ambien to help me sleep. His viewing is Sunday and his funeral is Monday. How long can a person grieve? Thank you Nancy for responding to me. It was nice to have someone to talk to. Julie h. Sat, 20 May 2006 00:00:00 GMT www.saxtown.com My wife passed April 15th. MELANOMA If you would like, there is a way you can still help.You can set up a chapter for your father. Go to my website. You must keep fighting for your father. I am very devistated by my lose. It will take a long time to heal,but It will start to ease just a little bit as time goes on. Fighting still for my wife is everything to me now. God Bless, Michael Brown Sambolina Mon, 22 May 2006 00:00:00 GMT Hi Julie, So sorry to have read about your loving dad. It really is a shame that the good go and the bad stay. I still am having a hard time some 9 months later. But my dad was 85 not 72 like yours. My mom still turns to the chair he sat in to tell him about some current news event and realizes he's not there. She goes to the cemetary to visit each month and cries her heart out. We went thru Thanksgiving without him, Christmas, New Years, Easter and now their Anniversary is coming up in May. We try to keep her busy, take her shopping, go on overnite trips, but reality is she still has to come home to an empty condo. She had alot of paperwork to go thru, bank accounts, stocks, medicare, filing taxes w/o him. It's been a long 9 months for all of us. Each family has to grieve their own way and take as long as they feel necessary to know dad is not walking thru that door or going to call on the phone. Now I'm going thru this w/my f-i-l. He's 73 and it could be any day also from melanoma. You will get thru this weekend and life will go on. It will be sad. Again, I'm so sorry. Nancy Nancylynn Tue, 23 May 2006 00:00:00 GMT Hi Julie, Just to let you know my father in law passed away 6/2/06. I wrote to you a couple weeks ago when your dad passed. My mother in law hasn't sat down once. She is cooking, cleaning, talking on the phone. I think once all of us leave she will become a basket case. She said she felt like she was having an outer body experience the morning of the funeral. What do you say to someone who just lost there husband. But all the children and grandchildren gave eulogies at the service so there were some funny moments until he was put into a mosaleum(spelling??). That was the final moment of no return. My brother in law and I identified his body at the temple. He looked so peaceful. I kissed him on the forhead and told him I loved him. I wonder if he saw all of us. We'll never know. Take care of yourself and mom. Nancy Nancylynn Wed, 07 Jun 2006 00:00:00 GMT