CancerCompass message board discussion started by Rickie on 6/10/2006 http://www.cancercompass.com/message-board/message/all,5619,0.htm Mon, 13 Oct 2008 00:00:00 GMT Mon, 13 Oct 2008 00:00:00 GMT http://backend.userland.com/rss RSS.NET: http://www.rssdotnet.com/ What if I disagree with treatment. Do I keep my mouth shut. With two surgeries and two malignant tumors and positive lymph nodes and positive findings in stomach lining ... a huge sarcoma......I would opt for quality of life or alternative medicine. The doctor wants radiation with possible chemo. He hasn't had the final meeting with the tumor committee yet....but he feels those are the options. I'm not sure if I should even say what I feel. Anyone run into this? Rickie Sat, 10 Jun 2006 00:00:00 GMT I have been going through a similar situation. In the end the only person who can make this decision is the patient and as caregivers it is best to abide by their decisions and support them in their choices. It is possible to ask the patient how she feels about the chemo. Definitely find out about side effects and find out if your loved one wants to put up with them. When the doctors tell you about side effects it is wise to ask what percentage of patients encounter a particular side effects, how manageable are they. Then let your loved one make the choice. It is called being patient active, and although it is hard at first, i found it to be quite freeing. neeharika Neeharika Sun, 18 Jun 2006 00:00:00 GMT Thank you for getting back to me and of course, you are right. The treatment is going to be five weeks of radiation and hormone treatment. We meet with radiologist soon. The treatment was recommended by the surgeon, but he thinks that is what it will be. I get too involved in decision making and it should not be this way. I will stay educated and still make sure she is making all the decisions. Rickie Thu, 22 Jun 2006 00:00:00 GMT