CancerCompass message board discussion started by Faith on 6/15/2006 http://www.cancercompass.com/message-board/message/all,5664,0.htm Thu, 21 Aug 2008 00:00:00 GMT Thu, 21 Aug 2008 00:00:00 GMT http://backend.userland.com/rss RSS.NET: http://www.rssdotnet.com/ I am looking to find someone to talk with that has lossed their young daughter to colon cancer. I need someone that has walked in my shoes and could be able to understand how I am feeling. And I can do the same in return for them. I am so lost without her. When your title as Mom, & Friend has been taking away you are left with an everyday heaviness that just will not ease. So please if there is anyone who wishes to talk please let me know. Thanks Dana : What sunshine is to flowers, Smiles are to humanity. In Memory Of Jen. (jennifergriffin.net) Faith Thu, 15 Jun 2006 00:00:00 GMT hello faith,I would like to know if your daughter's cancer matastisized(spelling), if so where did it move to? how long was she ill? I'm taking care of my only sister now since dec.04, in the last few days she has went down hill really fast, her abdomen has doubled in size,I'M scared and not scared at the same time,she is the only sister i have left and it occured to me that I won't be a sister anymore, I have 2 brothers (one my twin) but it won't be the same,I try to keep that huge part of me locked away so I can care for her but I feel like i'm going to blow up,Ihave a fair idea of what it feels like to lose a child and nothing else compares to it, it was my sister's son he was 18 at the time of his death,you feel like(rightly so)there is no place to put that love,I was so worried about my sister that I had a major siezure(?)losing a daughter ?Icouldn't begin to go there,i'll tell you one thing though don't be afraid to talk about her or to her!I could be wrong and often am but I THINK THAT IS A VERY GOOD WAY of dealing with itbecause she will always be with you, my sister might be with me a few more days and then i'll deal with it,i wish i could tell you some magical thing to help you cope but I'VE not found it either,i'll pray for youand think of you just remember,you're never truly alone,may god bless you with a peaceful mind.. annieo Annieo Thu, 22 Jun 2006 00:00:00 GMT Annieo, I'm sorry to hear about your sister. I know how painful it is to be the one taking care of the person you love so dearly. The pain that comes when there is really nothing you can do for them. My daughter Jennifer's colon cancer had spread to almost all of her organs plus Spine, gallbladder, lungs, spleen plus others. I think she got the worst pain from her gallbladder. She too doubled in size from swelling. Those last few days are very scary knowing what the end result will be. But we have to know that we have done all we could. My only advise to you would be hold a little tighter, talk a little longer and smile much more, even if the pain is so intense that you can hardly stand it. My daughter said one of the hardest parts was just seeing all the gloom in peoples faces when they looked at her. And that a smile would be much nicer. Give plenty of hugs. That will help you and your sister. I pray that she will get better. And that you and her days will have some pleasent moments. I'm here if your days become much more sadened. Take care, Faith Faith Mon, 26 Jun 2006 00:00:00 GMT Annieo, I'm sorry to hear about your sister. I know how painful it is to be the one taking care of the person you love so dearly. The pain that comes when there is really nothing you can do for them. My daughter Jennifer's colon cancer had spread to almost all of her organs plus Spine, gallbladder, lungs, spleen plus others. I think she got the worst pain from her gallbladder. She too doubled in size from swelling. Those last few days are very scary knowing what the end result will be. But we have to know that we have done all we could. My only advise to you would be hold a little tighter, talk a little longer and smile much more, even if the pain is so intense that you can hardly stand it. My daughter said one of the hardest parts was just seeing all the gloom in peoples faces when they looked at her. And that a smile would be much nicer. Give plenty of hugs. That will help you and your sister. I pray that she will get better. And that you and her days will have some pleasent moments. I'm here if your days become much more sadened. Take care, Faith Faith Mon, 26 Jun 2006 00:00:00 GMT I lost my oldest child, Johnny, when he was 17. It was an auto accident, not cancer, but it really doesn't matter how you lose a child. They are gone and you are left with all the pain. My son has been gone 27 years and oh how I still miss him! My other three children are all grown and two have families of their own. It was very hard on the whole family. The "firsts" are so hard, first Christmas, Easter, Birthday, etc. All I can tell you is you have to go thru the pain and only time will heal your heart, a very long time. Do talk about her to your family and friends, but do not let that be all you talk about. I used to go to bed at night and pray that I wouldn't wake up. As time went on that stopped and I am so glad that I am here to see how wonderful my other three children turned out and my wonderful grandchildren. Keep yourself busy, go to a berevement group and see if that helps. Get back to work (if you work), or volunteer. Anything to keep your mind busy. I am sorry that there isn't something magical that I can tell you that will ease your pain. Nothing does. Gradually, your heart will heal and one day you will be able to smile when you think about her, remembering the good times. I truely feel my son has become my guardian angel and I speak to him all the time. If you need to talk, you can always email me here. I do check it often. Good luck to you. Barbara119 Barbara 119 Tue, 11 Jul 2006 00:00:00 GMT