CancerCompass message board discussion started by Tripface on 6/27/2006 http://www.cancercompass.com/message-board/message/all,5816,0.htm Wed, 03 Dec 2008 00:00:00 GMT Wed, 03 Dec 2008 00:00:00 GMT http://backend.userland.com/rss RSS.NET: http://www.rssdotnet.com/ thank you ..u made me have a little more hope.... im with him right now see me my mother and my younger bother came up last friday..to help him out and stuff bc his wife got surgery...so comes monday and my mom needs to got home bc she has to work and all that.i feel like i needed to stay and he wanted me to stay. so i called in work and school..bc rite now he is more important to me then money school or work...ya know he may not be around for that much longer and i realize that. so i want to be with him and make his day better bc being with him makes mine better. it so hard but i have to make the best of it right? i have been trying to talk to him more about how he is feeling about all this. he is like well as long as i have no pain hes good..i think he is likeing the main medication. i asked him if he was scared..hes like iam am and im not at the same time. what kinda of things should i talk about him with? Tripface Tue, 27 Jun 2006 00:00:00 GMT I'm glad to hear that your family are pulling together and helping each other. Many times crises like this can help family members become much closer, and that's a blessing. As far as what to say or talk about, you two need to work that out among yourselves. A good start is to consider talking about things that concern/worry you both now, and also just things that interest you or you enjoy. See if you can find some things in common, of mutual interest. Also, you will want to ask or somehow find out how long the docs think he has to live. What you do and how much you change your life to help him will depend partly on the time frame. Its hard to believe, but some folks with advanced prostate cancer live for several years. For others, it may just be months or even weeks. Pat K Patrick1 Wed, 28 Jun 2006 00:00:00 GMT