CancerCompass message board discussion started by Gladys E. on 7/10/2002 http://www.cancercompass.com/message-board/message/all,860,0.htm Thu, 28 Aug 2008 00:00:00 GMT Thu, 28 Aug 2008 00:00:00 GMT http://backend.userland.com/rss RSS.NET: http://www.rssdotnet.com/ I live with my parents, Mother, 80, Blood Disorder, (in the Bone), Neurophy, Tremors, and this came almost over night to my mother, it started in a period of just 3 to 4 months time, and she has Atrial Fibrillation too. Dad, 84, is a Diabetic, has Neurophy, and what ever comes with being a diabetic, and I am 55. When they gave birth to me, I became the sort of health problem child. I have lived with them since 1991, when I left my second husband. I myself have severe allergies problems, I get shots for part of it, and restricted foods, I also have a bad back, surgery 1968, Disk. I am on S.S.I., due to the back. I am right now seeking Self-Employement with Cake Decorating so that I may stay at home to take care of my parents, but yet get off of S.S.I. I am suppose to take care of my parents without any outside help from them, including helping me with the cost of my foods. The emotional area of my mother that I think is keeping her down is family. Because this family situation didn't just start after the diagnosis, this has been going on. It just has gotten worst. I will continue later with this, the more to tell. Gladys E. Wed, 10 Jul 2002 00:00:00 GMT Gladys, I am sorry to hear of your situation. I am not sure that I can help you but I know that it is a noble thing to care for our loved ones. The rewards will never be financial but relational and spiritual. When I was 28 to 30 I ended up being the primary caretaker of my grandmother. I did this till she passed from this life into eternity. There were times with I was greatly frustrated, angry, and depressed, but over all I have found that the situation was a great reward to me as a human being and as a soul. Most of all you have to remember that our spiritual lives can be our strength when we are falling apart in the world. Being a Christian I believe in the indwelling of the Holy Spirit and know that he taught me so much about love, patience, and hope while I cared from my grandmother. Also, even though we had our problems, I shared with her something and some times that no one else in my family has and these gifts are greater than the trouble of those years. God Bless, Marlin Marlin B. Sat, 05 Jul 2003 00:00:00 GMT