CancerCompass message board discussion started by Donkey on 1/5/2007 http://www.cancercompass.com/message-board/message/all,8640,0.htm Tue, 02 Dec 2008 00:00:00 GMT Tue, 02 Dec 2008 00:00:00 GMT http://backend.userland.com/rss RSS.NET: http://www.rssdotnet.com/ Only 3months after my mother found out she has cancer. This past Dec 29 she has passed away.  After only 2 rounds of chemo her body was to weak. I give her credit that she wanted the chemo after doctors told her on Sept 29 she would only have 6 months.  Three months to the day she could fight no more. My heart is broken but people say time will heal.  I am an only child, I thought I would fall apart, but with my Mom's faith I know time will heal.  Thank You for everyone for their support.    Donkey Fri, 05 Jan 2007 00:00:00 GMT I am so sorry to hear about the passing of your mother, I will keep you in my prayers. The old saying " time heals all" is not exactly true. Time will make things easier and allow you to gain some persepective, but from time to time the hurt will still be there, and that is ok. Just remember that in those moments find your faith and press on, or do something positive to honor your moms fight againts cancer. I have watched several friends pass of cancer while my husband continues to battle his, and I have found great strength, courage, and know how in the moments of pain, and when they sneak up on me I try to find a way to hinor their memory, it helps. This is still new to you, but dont stop talking use this forum to help you, by helping you you are actually helping others. Cancer is an awful thing, but the cancer community is a blessing. God bless, Shawna Wepayhopkins Mon, 08 Jan 2007 00:00:00 GMT I am sorry for your loss and your pain.  As my mom's health begins to deteriorate from her battle with this, I see my future in you.  I do believe that being committed to keeping her gifts, strengths and blessings alive in your life is the greatest tribute and will help give you strength and comfort.  Know that her suffering has ended too may help.All my best.Brigid Brigid Mon, 08 Jan 2007 00:00:00 GMT I also lost my mother in May 2006 after just 6-months of her diagnosis.  She meant the world to me and I miss her dearly, but I try to keep busy with work and family.  Always remember the good times and keep her alive in your heart and mind. Regards Dan in New York Dsdan1127 Tue, 09 Jan 2007 00:00:00 GMT My prayers are with you.  I know it is difficult for you, it is for me ,too.Claudia Sabkodua Tue, 09 Jan 2007 00:00:00 GMT Dear Shawna,I'm  so sorry to hear of your loss, I lost my mother last year November, two weeks after they finally found out what was wrong, my mother kept loseing so much blood and needed to be tranfused. my heart was so broken when she had to let go and leave,And  why it took so long to find out what was wrong with mom. But my mother was and still is a beautiful person as is your mother.k now that Jesus needed another angel and she is watching over you. I thank each and every person that helped me heal in my time. Be easy on yourself ,you have a great support system here.  You will heal, and you will go forward.I never knew Cancer until I had to experience it. Keep going forward. My prayers are with you always,Pam  Pamela H. Wed, 10 Jan 2007 00:00:00 GMT Dear friend: I am an only child also and lost my mother to Breast cancer three years ago. I had a short time to prepare and I can tell you that there will always be a hole in my heart that only she can fill. Six months after she passed away I was diagnosed with breast cancer and went through the nightmare that I watched her endure. I asked myself many times, "why me, God" and although I don't have the answer to that question, I do know that my Mother became my gaurdian angel that  watched over me as I went thru chemo, surgeries, and treatment. Each year since my diagnosis, I run a 5k in her memory and try to live a life she would be proud of. My advice is that you do the same.....be the woman she that would make her smile. My prayers to you.Michele S. Michele 86328 Wed, 10 Jan 2007 00:00:00 GMT Another sad story...my husband, Bryan who was 57, passed away on November 13th.  He was misdiagnosed for about a year and a half (severe acid reflux) and was finally correctly diagnosed with gastric cancer on May 31, 2006.  He did very well on ECF and we were anticipating a gastrectomy.  On October 30 we were told that his cancer had spread to his bones and lungs and there was not much hope.  They were going to change his chemo routine and while we waited (and they fiddled around), his cancer just seemed to explode within him.  On November 7th he was told he was too weak for the new chemo and was given two weeks to live.  I have been reading with great interest people's disappointments with Sloan Kettering...I feel the same way about Sunnybrook in Toronto.  It took two months from diagnosis to first chemo, then the oncologist "forgot" to order the CT scan at the correct time.  I realize that these months and weeks probably did not change the outcome...but they surely changed the time line.  Am I bitter...I try not to be, but it's so very hard.   God bless all of you...there must be a special section in heaven for the gastric cancer victims...God knows they deserve it!Darlene Darlene Anne Tue, 16 Jan 2007 00:00:00 GMT I am so sorry to hear of your loss. My beloved grandfather (Papa) died on November 10 or pancreatic cancer. Although he was 81 and lived a very fulfilling life, I miss him terribly.  He was my buddy and we did lots of things together and had many things in common.  Time does not heal the wounds but it does make it easier.  I choose to laugh most times when I think of my papa. I think about all of the fun we had and how much we enjoyed cooking together.  And although I have not done it yet, I plan to join my local chapter of the Amer. Cancer Society or a hospice to give of myself in any capacity that I can.  I think he would be so proud and hopefully I can help others. Remember that it is important to let all of your feelings out; cry, laugh, scream or whatever it takes to make you feel better.  I wish nothing but the best for you. Many blessings.Tracy (Papa's girl)   Papasgirl Wed, 17 Jan 2007 00:00:00 GMT I so sorry to hear about the passing of your mother.  I know how precious our parents are to use and how difficult it is to lose a parent.  Your mother was a very strong person to decide to do the chemo.  Maintain your mother's strong faith in God and he will help you deal with her loss.  He is ALWAYS with us, all you have to do is pray and ask that he comfort you and give you peace.  Time does heal, but you will ALWAYS miss her.  Just remember all the wonderful memories and the time that you had with her.  She is in a wonderful place now and will be your guardian angel.  Keep the faith!! Sailin Lou Thu, 18 Jan 2007 00:00:00 GMT