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    I did a scan of the topics in this forum, and couldn't find something related to my question, so sorry if this is a repeat: Short story: My big brother passed away from Stage IV lung cancer in March. There's no history in my family of lung cancer (or any cancer, except for a great-aunt who died from stomach cancer). I'm taking my own steps toward mitigation; quitting smoking, getting yearly chest pics, etc. As I go...

    June 07 at 7:20 PM view discussion
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      Also - and I don't want to get into any religious flame-war here - but I expect it's especially rough for friends/relatives who are believers to see their loved one pass while an unbeliever. I've experienced that a the funerals for a couple suicides I've attended. While he was raving the night before he died, my brother kept hollering out "HELP ME DAD". I think the day he got his diagnosis he immediately started thi...

      March 16, 2013 view post
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        Thank you for your comments. I'm not one of those militant atheists - it's a crazy world we get to spend a few decades in, and whatever you need to make sense of it: godspeed (so to speak). To paraphrase a great aphorism I saw recently: "If there be a good god or gods, then they will see your virtue and reward you. If there be evil gods, they should not be worshipped. If there be no gods, then your virtue will be its...

        March 16, 2013 view post
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          Thanks, Scott. My wife went off on a trip the day after it happened, my son is off to play a show, but I think our old-cat Tiger is trying to hug me. Cats always know when things suck. Those friggin, zombified cells. Not like a virus, where the virus has a plan to reproduce when its host is cold. Just bad programming that spreads to the other cells. Senseless death.

          March 15, 2013 view post
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            I didn't realize that when the hospice folks said "a few days", they really meant a few days. He was blissed-out on morphine. His wife and her mom were having coffee, and mom said "I think he's gone". Sure enough, he'd gone. Not sure if I like the old-school method of sitting with the body. He was the most obviously dead person I've ever seen. Pallid and still. I walked up to his body and patted the shoulder saying ...

            March 15, 2013 view discussion
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              I've been an infrequent visitor here. Mostly because my brother seemed to be doing well with his chemo. Now it's time for the deep dive. Stage IV lung cancer discovered a year ago, and now it's just friggin' everywhere, and he's in a lot of pain during what the docs say is 2 weeks to 2 months. I heard from a hospice worker that "You Can't Chase Pain". Turns out that this was his big mistake, since he denied any pain...

              March 09, 2013 view discussion
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                NCjk53 - thanks. The situation is complicated by family (something I'm SURE nobody on this forum has had to deal with!). My brother and I were both pretty devout Christians, but have gone over to agnosticism for a variety of reasons. He's married to a very devout Christian, a fact which has always confused the rest of us, and there are some siblings that are still Christians. =) It becomes complicated because half o...

                December 08, 2012 view post
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                  I shouldn't have opened up a can of worms by alluding to the fact that the principals involved here are all agnostic. I could have made my point more diplomatically, and I'm sorry if I offended you. Superstition has done a lot of good in the world, and I know lots of folks who are devout whose faith supports them. So sorry for your loss. I'm grateful you have the comfort of your beliefs to help you through this ...

                  December 07, 2012 view post
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                    Thanks.

                    December 07, 2012 view post
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                      So glad you have a god to hang on to. I wish I had a mythological figure to hold on to.

                      December 04, 2012 view post
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