CarryingOn

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• CarryingOn has replied to a post on the message board

  It is so important to be informed and practical about the situation. You are smart to get started on research. Read all you can. Try to always be kind and compassionate, especially if there are moments of frustration and anger on both sides, but don't be a doormat. Stay calm and respond with love.

  May 25, 2012 view post

• CarryingOn has replied to a post on the message board

  Maybe you could come up with a variation on what I had to tell my mother who lives in another state and would sob on the phone about how she hated that she couldn't help me deal with my husband's cancer. I said: I don't have the time or energy to make up a way for you to help me, just so YOU will feel better. It made the point.

  May 24, 2012 view post

• CarryingOn has replied to a post on the message board

  Susan - I love your suggestion on what to say to him. Thank you! Good question about my husband: he does like the attention and the visits, but doesn't/can't talk on the phone much either. I told him we needed to compromise on the level of the friend's involvement in our life since it does fall on me to be the communicator/hostess. He says he understands my position and supports whatever I need to do. I've just ...

  May 24, 2012 view post

• CarryingOn has created a new message board discussion

  My husband has metastatic cancer. We have a friend who phones us every day during treatments and procedures to check on us. We're both typically exhausted (duh) and/or dealing with effects of chemo (report doesn't vary much), and I'm not much of a phone user under the best of circumstances. I do believe he is mostly showing that he cares, but I also think he wants to be uber involved with our process (he runs various...

  May 24, 2012 view discussion