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  • Ladyblue7 has replied to a post on the message board

    A kindred spirit! It causes me shame to admit that anger was one of my biggest issues during my husband's nearly four year battle with lung cancer. I used to ask him "will the REAL you please stand up??" I was his sole caregiver. His three adult children were spared any of the details and only saw what he wanted them to see. He could go from vomiting and barely walking to carrying on conversations on the phone sayin...

    January 16 at 3:21 PM view post
    • Ladyblue7 has replied to a post on the message board

      I'm so thankful to all of you sharing your stories. It seems lime it's been months since I first posted my comment, yet I look at the date and realize how slowly time is crawling by. Lately I can't find the strength to write, even though I have been told it's one of the best ways to deal with the sadness. I'm not ready to move any of his things, but I did finally throw away all of the oxygen tubing and masks. There's...

      January 13 at 5:35 AM view post
      • Ladyblue7 has replied to a post on the message board

        Meah, My head is pounding after reading your story. My heart goes out to you. I also learned of my husband's betrayal via texts and phone calls. He was secretive and when I would discover them, he would get mad, saying they were friends. Sometimes I wondered if I was being unreasonable to deny him communication with old friends. But then I'd come to my senses. Having Christian beliefs, I wondered how he could know hi...

        January 07 at 4:05 PM view post
        • Ladyblue7 has replied to a post on the message board

          Meah, My head is pounding after reading your story. My heart goes out to you. I also learned of my husband's betrayal via texts and phone calls. He was secretive and when I would discover them, he would get mad, saying they were friends. Sometimes I wondered if I was being unreasonable to deny him communication with old friends. But then I'd come to my senses. Having Christian beliefs, I wondered how he could know hi...

          January 07 at 4:05 PM view post
          • Ladyblue7 has replied to a post on the message board

            Gosh, this is a tough one for me. My husband was on hospice care, but doing well. He wasn't incapacitated. Was still eating small meals, walking to the bathroom, sometimes the kitchen, even though he was on oxygen 24/7. The night before he took 'the turn for the worse' we watched a movie, then went to sleep just like every other night. I was awakened at 5 am by the sound of labored breathing, a sound that will haunt ...

            January 07 at 3:27 PM view post
            • Ladyblue7 has replied to a post on the message board

              It seems that being a caregiver does take a toll. And we are left with doubts about ourselves. As the weeks have gone by, I'm beginning to realize that if we really had been neglectful, we probably wouldn't be the kind of people to give it much thought after our love one has passed away. I'm so thankful to those of you who have responded to my post.

              January 07 at 3:12 PM view post
              • Ladyblue7 has replied to a post on the message board

                All of your messages have touched my heart. Our stories all have a common thread. One which we never wanted, but life is like that. Ultimately it is our loved one who suffered and died. I'm trying to understand that there are no rights or wrongs. We (I) did everything from our hearts, praying it was enough. Today begins the Christmas that I have dreaded. The first time he and I haven't been together in ten years. I t...

                December 24 at 2:03 PM view post
                • Ladyblue7 has replied to a post on the message board

                  Thank you. I never thought of it that way. I'm being asked to follow a new road. That's really something I need to address

                  December 22 at 7:17 AM view post
                  • Ladyblue7 has created a new message board discussion

                    I lost him eight weeks ago. One day after our second anniversary, and we were a couple for eight years prior. He fought lung cancer for almost four years. I was his sole caregiver. There is much to be said about our story. My question is this- did any of you who were caregivers ever just want it to be over? I feel tremendous guilt. I should have been kinder, more patient. I was with him pretty much 24/7 the last year...

                    December 21 at 8:36 PM view discussion
                    • Ladyblue7 has replied to a post on the message board

                      Update on our situation. We got married in October. I am happy about that and his adult children have been very loving and supportive. It turned around very quickly, so I'm still wary of the relationships with them. There was a comment made about hoping I would do the right thing, I'm assuming they meant sharing whatever it is they think my husband will leave me. Whatever. Hubby is still involved in clinical trials. ...

                      January 21, 2013 view post
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