Ladyblue7

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• Ladyblue7 has replied to a post on the message board

  Update on our situation. We got married in October. I am happy about that and his adult children have been very loving and supportive. It turned around very quickly, so I'm still wary of the relationships with them. There was a comment made about hoping I would do the right thing, I'm assuming they meant sharing whatever it is they think my husband will leave me. Whatever. Hubby is still involved in clinical trials. ...

  January 21 at 5:47 AM view post

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  My boyfriend was diagnosed with stage four NSC lung cancer 18 months ago. He has been through two clinical trials, and they are testing to see if he meets criteria for a new one. The last one involved Docetaxol and an experimental drug. It is no longer effective. He was referred to palliative care about six months ago, but he doesn't really understand why. His coping skills have basically been denial and apathy. My q...

  August 06 at 12:28 PM view discussion

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  It is comforting to realize we are not alone in our battle to help a loved one battle for their life. Selfishly speaking, I am exhausted, burnt out, aggravated, but mostly in desperate need of some love and kindness from the man I love. He has moments of tenderness, but few and far between. Mostly he's angry, withdrawn, and downright mean. And refuses counseling, antidepressants...he only takes his pain meds. And the...

  August 06 at 4:45 AM view post

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  Just wanted to touch base. How are you? Things are mostly the same here.

  August 06 at 3:54 AM view post

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  As they say, God works in mysterious ways. Your message came at a perfect time. I brought up the subject of marriage last night, received the same answer...He doesnt have a reason why. And again, it resulted in me feeling sad and hurt, and him being angry. When that happens, he yells at me and then goes to bed. Things are more chaotic, but hopefully will settle down soon. He suggested selling the house we live in. It...

  June 03 at 3:26 PM view post

• Ladyblue7 has replied to a post on the message board

  Hi Linda, Things are about the same, but I'm dealing with the stress a bit better. A little break helped me a lot. I do believe that Robert is starting to slip away. There are just things I notice about the way he looks, the pain he has. It's so hard to explain and I'm the only one who sees the real sickness. He has been off the clinical trial that required him to take chemo pills daily. In the two weeks since he st...

  April 15, 2012 view post

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  It is heartbreaking all the way around. And at the end of the day I know that, while being treated with disrespect, I am not fighting for my life. I just wish he didn't find it so easy to yell at me or make me the bad guy. As I type this, I am reeling from some hurtful things he said earlier this evening. He said he's sorry, then goes back to watching tv. My plan is to leave tomorrow afternoon and be gone all weekend...

  April 12, 2012 view post

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  It does seem we are in a similar situation. I find myself feeling more angry and depressed every day. His scan last week shows progression of the tumor, so now he is going on a second clinical trial. It will really become hectic with the new treatment schedule. His ex wife knows better than to come to our house. She caused trouble when he was first diagnosed, but has let go of it. His kids visit every couple of weeks...

  April 11, 2012 view post

• Ladyblue7 has replied to a post on the message board

  I can't express what your response means to me. As I read it, I broke down and cried. Which is something I rarely do, because he asked me not to. He needs me to be strong, not emotional. I shared a bit of what I wrote, and then a few snippets of responses I received. The thing he remarked on was the morphine. He said that if I spoke to any of his docs behind his back, then that was a deal breaker. He would quit going...

  March 25, 2012 view post

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  Not petty at all. Breast cancer is just one of many cancers that millions fight each day. My mother has lung cancer, and in spite of being a smoker for 50plus years miraculously is apparently cured..her doc's words...thanks to a ct done for another illness that caught her tumor early. My boyfriend of 7 years, a non smoker, was diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer a year ago and prognosis is very poor. In my opinion, mo...

  March 24, 2012 view post