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    Saramarie    At some point you might look up a book called: "Feathers Brush My Heart"  the author is Sinclair Lewis.  There are several stories within it all written by daughters whose moms have passed. I was drawn to the book back in 2001. I could not tell you why. I just was. I didn't think it would really pertain to me because my mom died when I was less than three weeks old and we never g...

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      Dear Saramarie   Thank you for sharing your love and experience. As a hospice nurse for over 20 years I will tell you that quite a few times a patient will wait until family members leave to pass on. They sometimes sent them shopping. Please don't beat yourself up. The day my husband died we were both in the living room. He was laying on the sofa watching baseball and I was curled up in a c...

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        Yes we do all grieve in our own ways with our own time table. Children of different ages grieve differently than at other ages. But it is still an individual thing. Spouses grief differently than children of any age. No one knows how it will feel until they have actually gone thru it. Even as a compassionate hospice nurse for over 20 yrs experiencing it myself was quite different. Oh I knew the stages to come b...

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          Cathy   I am so sorry you lost your Mom. I hope that during those holidays you and the family and children are able to talk freely about her. When my husband first died I used to take my grandkids fishing. It was an easy place to talk about grandpa freely and tell fishing stories and smile. Irene

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            Wildrose, that first year was so rough. anticipating all those special days that we wouldn't be sharing and all the memories of the ones we had for so many years. That year I didn't put a tree up. I just had a wreath and my nativity set up with tiny lights. This will be my 4th Christmas without Phil and I still miss him so much even though there is someone in my life now. I am glad that this new man and I ...

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              the bible says there is a time for tears and a time for joy... Tears last the night but joy comes in the morning. For us here in the bereavement site our nights have been very very long. The man I am seeing started dating only a few months after his wife died. I did not meet him until she had been gone a year. Which I thought at the time was a bit too soon until I realized he had had years of anticipatory...

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                I think men have a tendency to start dating sooner than women once widowed. Perhaps you can let your dad know how you feel and that getting through all these firsts without your mom is very difficult without adding stress to your grief. If the woman he is seeing is widowed I think she would understand. It was almost a year and a half before I started dating after my dear husband died. Now over three and a half years...

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                  I am so sorry that your sister is not able to attain information.  It is not fair. Adoption stigmas still remain after all these years and believe me it is not usally the birthmother who asked for anonymity. Many times it is her family and the agencies who have insisted on it. Hard to believe in this day and age. I speak from personal experience as a birth mom who was force to relinguish my daughter back in 1969...

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                    I turned 65 last month. Son's are 42 and almost 40. My older son said: Mom, go to your friend's house.  Yesterday I told my younger son's wife about the choice for thanksgiving and she said that's fine to go.  I don't know that my younger son and grandkids will feel that way. I was chicken to tell them and get their reaction. I left that to my DIL.  Christmas is at their house and I sure wi...

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                      I am now over 3 and a 1/2 years down the widow road. At 2 and a 1/2 years a special man came into my life. He is so different from my beloved Phil yet I find his personality of humor and outgoingness is exactly what I want and need at this time of my life. We are both widowed and know how precious a good relationship is, especially at our mature ages(though we act like a couple of teens having lots of fun p...

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