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    Lee    I am so sorry for the loss of your father.  I recently read a novel by Richard Paul Evans called "The Walk"  first in a series about a man whose wife dies and he loses his job and home and begins to walk across America. One line in it says: "The only way to remove pain from death is to remove love from life" and we sure need love in our lives.  Thoughts and prayers with you Ir...

    July 21 at 10:37 PM view post
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      Well I found out you can renew a friendship that has gone sour! The key is being open to it. All my life...when there was conflict...I ran n hid. Now I work on relationships a lot more. And it is work for me. I either was a people pleaser or ditched them. I know how I closed myself off to everyone after Phil died. Not gonna beat myself up about it. It is what it is but I can move forward now! My friend actually...

      July 09 at 12:11 PM view post
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        Kathy I too have a friend whose husband died and she can't figure out why I would ever want to date again. They did not have a good relationship. She has said no one will ever take advantage of her again very firmly. lol The friend I am meeting tomorrow does not seem close to her husband. But I am not in that fresh grief phase and I can understand and accept better where people are at. So we will see. And if i...

        July 06 at 8:02 PM view post
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          Hi Carrie  I am happy you have found someone that makes you laugh. The friend in my life now has made me laugh more than anyone ever has. I think our husbands are looking down and happy to see us smile. Irene

          July 03 at 12:36 PM view post
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            After Phil died I wasn't just sad. I look back and see I became angry at the callous (or so it seemed to me) things people said: "He was a good man." "things will get better." "at least you had a good life together." They would talk about the everyday things in their lives. How could they not see that didn't help? How did everyday things continue? I met a woman back in 1998. We became instant friends. We had so much...

            July 02 at 12:25 PM view discussion
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              Hi Friends   Wondering how the day went for the dad's alone here and for those who dealt with the loss of a dad/husband. So hard either way. I took flowers up to Phil's ( my uncle and grandfather too)resting spots on Thursday and then meandered down to my friend's house for the weekend. I had a mug made with a pic of him and his two sons and his grand daughter and little Emme on the otherside. We san...

              June 25 at 2:53 AM view discussion
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                Hi Wildrose   That first seems like an eternity to get thru. I remember wondering..."how will I get thru this holiday season" "how do I make it thru this birthday" etc. Somehow grace gets us thru it, one day at a time. I think it was the anticipation of the event coming that at times was harding than the actual day. The second year isn't a cakewalk but at least you know you can and will make it thru them as...

                June 10 at 5:41 PM view post
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                  Beautiful and So true Stephen. I look at our sons and the grandchildren and know they have a part of Phil in them. When I take the gkids fishing we talk so easily there about grandpa like he is with us, guiding us.

                  June 04 at 12:32 PM view post
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                    Hydrangeas!  My favorite flower. I have even used them in a story. The interesting thing about them is that their color varies depending on which type of soil they are planted in(acidic or not). Sometimes blue, sometimes pink. And aren't we all affected by the type of environment we are raised? Irene

                    June 04 at 12:27 PM view post
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                      Stephen   Please take care of yourself. I am sure Kathy would want you to.  If we are believers in a higher power and that our loved one is there with that higher power now we need to try and be thankful. They have beaten cancer in one way. They are no longer in that horrible world of struggling and pain. I remember a couple months after Phil died. I had a dream or vision of him standing in front of m...

                      May 31 at 2:22 PM view post
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                      Esophageal Cancer
                      Alternative Treatments, Cancer Diagnosis, Cancer Nutrition, Chemotherapy, Diagnostic Imaging, Diet, Emotional Support, Radiation

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