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    I have spent the past 4 thanksgivings without Phil. The one before it, his last in 2010, we spent in the U of Penn hospital. He would get another stent that week in hopes he would eat again. Which he did for several months before he died. Just sharing that day with him was a treasure. Today I decided to spend with the man who has brought laughter and music back into my life. But I cried so this mornin...

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      Saturday evening I got a call from my cousin Beth(more like my little sister). Her mom Charlotte had passed away that morning(who was more like my big sister while I was growing up many years in her parents house). Charlotte been diagnosed with breast cancer back in 2006 but declined all medical treatment and was doing very well physically until the day before she passed. The very sad thing was th...

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        Saramarie    At some point you might look up a book called: "Feathers Brush My Heart"  the author is Sinclair Lewis.  There are several stories within it all written by daughters whose moms have passed. I was drawn to the book back in 2001. I could not tell you why. I just was. I didn't think it would really pertain to me because my mom died when I was less than three weeks old and we never g...

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          Dear Saramarie   Thank you for sharing your love and experience. As a hospice nurse for over 20 years I will tell you that quite a few times a patient will wait until family members leave to pass on. They sometimes sent them shopping. Please don't beat yourself up. The day my husband died we were both in the living room. He was laying on the sofa watching baseball and I was curled up in a c...

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            Yes we do all grieve in our own ways with our own time table. Children of different ages grieve differently than at other ages. But it is still an individual thing. Spouses grief differently than children of any age. No one knows how it will feel until they have actually gone thru it. Even as a compassionate hospice nurse for over 20 yrs experiencing it myself was quite different. Oh I knew the stages to come b...

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              Cathy   I am so sorry you lost your Mom. I hope that during those holidays you and the family and children are able to talk freely about her. When my husband first died I used to take my grandkids fishing. It was an easy place to talk about grandpa freely and tell fishing stories and smile. Irene

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                Wildrose, that first year was so rough. anticipating all those special days that we wouldn't be sharing and all the memories of the ones we had for so many years. That year I didn't put a tree up. I just had a wreath and my nativity set up with tiny lights. This will be my 4th Christmas without Phil and I still miss him so much even though there is someone in my life now. I am glad that this new man and I ...

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                  the bible says there is a time for tears and a time for joy... Tears last the night but joy comes in the morning. For us here in the bereavement site our nights have been very very long. The man I am seeing started dating only a few months after his wife died. I did not meet him until she had been gone a year. Which I thought at the time was a bit too soon until I realized he had had years of anticipatory...

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                    I think men have a tendency to start dating sooner than women once widowed. Perhaps you can let your dad know how you feel and that getting through all these firsts without your mom is very difficult without adding stress to your grief. If the woman he is seeing is widowed I think she would understand. It was almost a year and a half before I started dating after my dear husband died. Now over three and a half years...

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                      I am so sorry that your sister is not able to attain information.  It is not fair. Adoption stigmas still remain after all these years and believe me it is not usally the birthmother who asked for anonymity. Many times it is her family and the agencies who have insisted on it. Hard to believe in this day and age. I speak from personal experience as a birth mom who was force to relinguish my daughter back in 1969...

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