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Yesterday Was the 3rd anniversary of my "friend"s wife's death. He is not good with dates but I remembered for him and was teary eyed.
This Thursday marks 2 years since we met, though we had messaged for a month and a half before that. Thursday also marks 4 1/2 years since Phil passed.
I felt so sad thinking of our spouses who are no longer here to steady our course. Yet I am thankful Hank and I did find ...
Tuesday at 5:36 PM
Hi Stephen It is so hard to move forward after suffering the loss of a beloved spouse. Everything is new. We don't fit into that old comfortable mold any longer. I know I felt I had lost my identity when Phil was no longer physically here.
Some of my friends met the new guy last week and one told me today she didn't picture me with some who looks like him. Heck neither did I. Phil was a th...
September 24 at 1:30 AM
Hey there Eternalife
Well my forehead is healing nicely from the surgery. I go back in late Oct and probably have it lasered so the scar will be less visible. I am concerned bout a couple of precancerous ones now that will be removed soon. I am really taking this seriously and lots of sunscreen and staying in the shade. I think it's kind of like quiting smoking after 45 yrs though. Damage probably already done.
September 11 at 12:58 AM
Hi Max I am so sorry for the loss of your husband.
I too found it so hard to move forward after my Phil died (4 1/2 yrs next month). I remember telling my son I felt like my whole identity had been stolen. My nucleus was gone.
I thought once I made it thru that first 12 months I would be ok. There was no longer that horrid anticipatory of all the holidays. I knew I could get thru them. Yet there was sti...
September 11 at 12:46 AM
Grief is as individual as we all are whether male or female and the relationships we had, but we do share in this horrible loss.
Yesterday at the vets I was talking to the tech I know who just lose her mom after a fast 5 day struggle with acute lukemia. She mentioned how it doesn't seem real at times.
Last night I took my 13 yr old grandson to a minor league baseball game. Sitting ahead of us was a granddad an...
August 27 at 1:03 PM
Dear Csimonwitz It is such hard work to get thru grief!
Even at 4 1/2 years since losing my husband Phil I carry loss with me.
It has changed:
I remember the utter numbness that came first. Trying to do one thing and then feeling exhausted. Then the intense pain. It seemed no matter who might be there for me in family or friends there came the hours when I was all alone. ...
August 24 at 9:49 PM
I think the majority of people know about changing moles and irregular shaped freckles. I really check my skin surface but this time both basal cell sites didn't register. In fact it was after the dermatologist felt one site on my leg needed to be biopsied that I pointed out the one similar on my forehead that she hadn't gotten a good look at. Now it's back to every 6 months for check ups. Glad I was at le...
August 15 at 7:14 PM
Sorry I haven't been on here in a while. Early last week I was able to have the basal cell on my forehead removed. Years ago I had a spot and it was easily removed. Didn't think much of it. This time they did more and not's real pretty but I have confidence that the doctor in Philly got it all...until the next may pop up? Not being pessimestic but this is my 3rd basal cell. Just had one on my leg taken off.
As a tee...
August 08 at 6:21 PM
Lee I am so sorry for the loss of your father.
I recently read a novel by Richard Paul Evans called "The Walk" first in a series about a man whose wife dies and he loses his job and home and begins to walk across America. One line in it says:
"The only way to remove pain from death is to remove love from life"
and we sure need love in our lives. Thoughts and prayers with you
July 21 at 10:37 PM
Well I found out you can renew a friendship that has gone sour! The key is being open to it. All my life...when there was conflict...I ran n hid. Now I work on relationships a lot more. And it is work for me. I either was a people pleaser or ditched them. I know how I closed myself off to everyone after Phil died. Not gonna beat myself up about it. It is what it is but I can move forward now!
My friend actually...
July 09 at 12:11 PM
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