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    I am so sorry for the loss of your dear Jock.   After Phil passed I had both dogs who were on the senior side. His pug Misty never liked me but we sought comfort in each others company. My greyhound Dickens was a mama's boy lol. Frankly it was harder losing the pug a couple years later cause it seemed like another piece of Phil was gone.  hugs   Irene

    February 25 at 1:53 PM view post
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      Dear Melissa   No one can ever take the place of your mom and I think there will always be those times that grab hold with intense missing.  Please try to be kind to yourself. I am sure your mom would want that. Don't berate yourself for the sadness or breakdowns. They can ebb and flow like the tide in a storm.    Irene

      February 18 at 2:39 PM view post
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        Kelly   You got me to thinking about the shows we watched together. Phil loved his sports. Hockey, baseball, basketball, football. I'd look up from reading or needlework and instead of the football game there would be a baskeball game. lol.  The one we watched together every night was Jeopardy. I would sometimes get a pen out and we would see who could guess more. After he died I just couldn't watch i...

        February 18 at 2:34 PM view post
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          Dear Csimonwitz   I am so sorry for the loss of your dear husband.  April 8 it will be 4 years since my husband Phil died after a battle with esophageal cancer. Everyone's grief experience is their individual. But generally I think most of us have gone through a numbness at first. I remember trying to get just one thing done each day for a while. Then I would have to lay down. I cried a...

          February 17 at 4:36 PM view post
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            Hi Eternal    My DIL had surgery on Friday so I haven't been on computer. Why she picked Friday the 13th and the day before Valentines Day to have the hysterectomy I don't know. It was not emergency surgery. I know her valentines day was painful and stressful for my son also for me taking the kids here and there as needed. Be that as it may. I did see my friend Saturday evening even though we dea...

            February 17 at 4:14 PM view post
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              Saramarie   I had a very close friend for several years. It was near the year marker after my husband died that she ditched me saying: "You aren't the same Irene! Where is she?" I admitted I wasn't the same. She stopped contact. Fast forward to now almost 4 yrs. I emailed her trying to explain how I was unable to be there for others during that dark time. She said thanks for explaining but she is very ...

              February 12 at 6:43 PM view post
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                Hi Saramarie   You didn't offend me. It was strange how I saw the advertisement for that book back in 2002. I said to myself: "why do you want to read that? You never even knew your mother and had no relationship with her." But I have always missed her and wanted so many times to have her here to talk to and ask advice and encourage me. While I was reading the stories I had a feather experience that was con...

                February 10 at 7:53 PM view post
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                  Hi Saramarie   I am the one who mentioned Feathers Brush My Heart.  My mom passed away when I was only 2 weeks old so I really never knew her. Missed her horribly all these years, but found something very comforting after I read that book and had a lot of "feather" experiences since then. Those I have told my story too, especially hospice patients families, have also. As far a...

                  February 07 at 3:02 PM view post
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                    Hi Wildrose   I think you have to go with what you feel in your heart is right. I will say that your children are old enough to be told and it can be said in gentleness without condemning Mike just as an acceptance of what is. If it comes out from someone other than you your children will  be blindsided. I speak from experience as a birthmom who was forced to relinquish a child back in the 1960s. It w...

                    February 07 at 2:48 PM view post
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                      Dear Magicsheers    You and your husband are both couragous. It is such a difficult time and I wish I could tell you it will get easier in the days ahead but I would be lying. It won't for a long time. In the days and weeks and months ahead take care of yourself. Do only what is needed and get rest, good food and gentle exercise. Remember that part of your husband will be remaining in ...

                      February 04 at 6:14 PM view post
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                      Esophageal Cancer
                      Alternative Treatments, Cancer Diagnosis, Cancer Nutrition, Chemotherapy, Diagnostic Imaging, Diet, Emotional Support, Radiation

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