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    Grief is as individual as we all are whether male or female and the relationships we had, but we do share in this horrible loss. Yesterday at the vets I was talking to the tech I know who just lose her mom after a fast 5 day struggle with acute lukemia. She mentioned how it doesn't seem real at times. Last night I took my 13 yr old grandson to a minor league baseball game. Sitting ahead of us was a granddad an...

    August 27 at 1:03 PM view post
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      Dear Csimonwitz    It is such hard work to get thru grief! Even at 4 1/2 years since losing my husband Phil I carry loss with me. It has changed: I remember the utter numbness that came first. Trying to do one thing and then feeling exhausted. Then the intense pain. It seemed no matter who might be there for me in family or friends there came the hours when I was all alone. ...

      August 24 at 9:49 PM view post
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        I think the majority of people know about changing moles and irregular shaped freckles. I really check my skin surface but this time both basal cell sites didn't register. In fact it was after the dermatologist felt one site on my leg needed to be biopsied that I pointed out the one similar on my forehead that she hadn't gotten a good look at.  Now it's back to every 6 months for check ups. Glad I was at le...

        August 15 at 7:14 PM view post
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          Sorry I haven't been on here in a while. Early last week I was able to have the basal cell on my forehead removed. Years ago I had a spot and it was easily removed. Didn't think much of it. This time they did more and not's real pretty but I have confidence that the doctor in Philly got it all...until the next may pop up? Not being pessimestic but this is my 3rd basal cell. Just had one on my leg taken off. As a tee...

          August 08 at 6:21 PM view discussion
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            Lee    I am so sorry for the loss of your father.  I recently read a novel by Richard Paul Evans called "The Walk"  first in a series about a man whose wife dies and he loses his job and home and begins to walk across America. One line in it says: "The only way to remove pain from death is to remove love from life" and we sure need love in our lives.  Thoughts and prayers with you Ir...

            July 21 at 10:37 PM view post
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              Well I found out you can renew a friendship that has gone sour! The key is being open to it. All my life...when there was conflict...I ran n hid. Now I work on relationships a lot more. And it is work for me. I either was a people pleaser or ditched them. I know how I closed myself off to everyone after Phil died. Not gonna beat myself up about it. It is what it is but I can move forward now! My friend actually...

              July 09 at 12:11 PM view post
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                Kathy I too have a friend whose husband died and she can't figure out why I would ever want to date again. They did not have a good relationship. She has said no one will ever take advantage of her again very firmly. lol The friend I am meeting tomorrow does not seem close to her husband. But I am not in that fresh grief phase and I can understand and accept better where people are at. So we will see. And if i...

                July 06 at 8:02 PM view post
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                  Hi Carrie  I am happy you have found someone that makes you laugh. The friend in my life now has made me laugh more than anyone ever has. I think our husbands are looking down and happy to see us smile. Irene

                  July 03 at 12:36 PM view post
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                    After Phil died I wasn't just sad. I look back and see I became angry at the callous (or so it seemed to me) things people said: "He was a good man." "things will get better." "at least you had a good life together." They would talk about the everyday things in their lives. How could they not see that didn't help? How did everyday things continue? I met a woman back in 1998. We became instant friends. We had so much...

                    July 02 at 12:25 PM view discussion
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                      Hi Friends   Wondering how the day went for the dad's alone here and for those who dealt with the loss of a dad/husband. So hard either way. I took flowers up to Phil's ( my uncle and grandfather too)resting spots on Thursday and then meandered down to my friend's house for the weekend. I had a mug made with a pic of him and his two sons and his grand daughter and little Emme on the otherside. We san...

                      June 25 at 2:53 AM view discussion
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                      Esophageal Cancer
                      Alternative Treatments, Cancer Diagnosis, Cancer Nutrition, Chemotherapy, Diagnostic Imaging, Diet, Emotional Support, Radiation

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