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    It really all depends. Everyone is individual. So many treatments. Radiation, chemo etc. Then also on the patients physical abilty to withstand the treatments. Unfortunately my husband was misdiagnosed for 6 months with drs saying it wasn't cancer so when we took him across the bridge into Philly things were not good. But he did have radiation for several weeks and a couple chemos. Plus 4 stents along the way.

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       This weekend I put the finishing touches on a 4th song. I was even able to put most of the chords for the melody on it! My friend Hank finished the one part where I still struggled with them. As with 2 of the other songs there is a mention of the "lonely" time. Yet it also tells of swaying on a porch swing,  playing music on my ukulele, singing and having the dog there. Had to put Emme in it and the m...

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        Hi Chefken   Don't know if you are still in need of answers about denial since your letter was September but this tip might help others...YES, raditation is used at times for pain management. As a hospice nurse I had several patients who would be treated this way. It is not aggressive therapy, just enough to shrink a tumor a bit for pain relief. My brother had this type during his battle with prostate ...

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          Dear Kjohnchas   I am so sorry for the loss of your dear husband.  I am 4 years here but I well remember moving into this widowhood. Terrible neighborhood to be in and yet only those living here truly understand.  I remember wondering how things around me could keep on. Like the sun shining and the bees buzzing and flowers blooming. Didn't they realize it was the end of my world? I had...

          May 21 at 4:22 PM view post
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            Hi Baily  I was widowed about a year and a half when I started to do "meet and greets" and then a few dates. I had it somewhere in the back of mind that the companion I might find would be a lot like Phil. ie: quiet,a fisherman, kayaker. The man who has been in my life the past year (I am widowed 4 yrs) is outgoing, doesn't fish or kayak and is a musician. At times I think we can't help but make some comparison...

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              Danyey I think the best advice I can give you as a former hospice nurse and then a caregiver to my late husband is... Take each day as it comes, sometimes just each minute. Try not to think too far into the future as it can be overwhelming. I used to say the serenity prayer a lot: "God grant me the serenity to accept the things I can not change, courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the diffe...

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                Stephen  I wish there was a button we could push to bring back that happiness. Memories of goodtimes can help or not. Family and friends presence with us may also. But those alone times, those missing times cut so deep. Another may in time find a place in our hearts but it's not that same place reserved for that special loved one. I found that there can be a happy again and yet I will always miss and long for Ph...

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                  Marie   you aren't wallowing.  Our lives change so dramtically while our loved one is fighting the cancer and after they are no longer here with us. I know I felt my identity had changed. I was laid off from my job when Phil became ill and so I had lost that part of my ID too. I never had the heart or energy to look for another job. At the time I didn't have the time to even grieve that loss as i was t...

                  April 28 at 11:50 AM view post
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                    On Tuesday I was think about my Phil's birthday and I realized the day before had been my new friend Hank's late wife Mary's birthday. Yesterday I found out that the 25th was my new DIL's first husbands birthday. A lot of "heavenly" birthdays within a few days! Well I didn't talk to my friend the day I was hurting. Some days we just text so that was normal. But Friday when I got down to his house he mentioned h...

                    April 26 at 7:11 PM view post
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                      Hi Friends   Tuesday would have been Phil's 69th bday. It's 4  years now since he passed. How can that be? So many things I still yearn for... To feel his touch and hear his voice, to see him watch our grandchildren as they grow, to see him smile as he holds up a big bass he caught or one of the grands who was with him did.  My best friend stopped over Tuesday to give me a bit of suppor...

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                      Esophageal Cancer
                      Alternative Treatments, Cancer Diagnosis, Cancer Nutrition, Chemotherapy, Diagnostic Imaging, Diet, Emotional Support, Radiation

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