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I guess we all need to remember that we all grieve our losses individually. I don't think there is a right or wrong.
I lost my mom when I was less than a month old. I am 66 and I still feel the loss of a mother. Yet I know it is so different from someone who had their mom for years and that is also different from those who had no close bond with their mom for years.
I wasn't raised by my father and yet surpris...
Yesterday at 12:46 AM
Hi There Eternalife
Two months from now will be 5 years since Phil passed. How could that be?? Yet sometimes it seems like yesterday.
Don't get me wrong...The pain is different. It's not as acute as that first year wondering if you CAN get through those days. Not as lingering and residual as that second year when you know you can and will get through them because you already did that once. Yet at times it...
February 04 at 6:28 PM
Hi Sandy I am so sorry you lost your husband.
Our lives take a huge change after the loss of our spouse. I remember telling my son I had lost my identity. Oh I was still a mom and grandma but the wife part which came before either of those was stolen.
There are good support groups you might find thru hospice or Gilda clubs. I also found a lot of help in the many books written BY widows for widows....
January 27 at 4:23 AM
It's now over 4 and half years since my best buddy, husband, lover of over 40 years died. My son showed me a video a couple weeks before chirstmas on his old phone of Phil and I lost it instantly. I didn't remember him taking it. Later when I got home I started wrapping presents and I found myself writing...from Irene and Phil. Really?!?! This is the 5th Christmas without him and I am doing this?
December 30 at 2:57 PM
I hadn't been on CC site lately. It makes me so sad to see so many new people here who have lost their loved ones. Cancer just seems to keep taking and taking.
I was happy last night to see former President Jimmy Carter has responded so well to treatment of melanoma that they consider him cancer free.
As for me I am being a good girl and staying out of the sun now and using a hat and plenty of sunscreen when I vent...
December 08 at 12:39 AM
Dear Ann I am so sorry for the loss of your husband Mike. Please try to take the best care of yourself at this time and get as much rest as possible. It is an exhausting time you are facing. Irene
November 05 at 3:28 AM
Stephen That's what we need to do..."know how truly blessed we are to have had our loved ones" even when it's not as long as we planned.
I see so many people living UNHAPPILY day after day and I think... what a waste of the precious time we are given here on earth!!!! Irene
October 29 at 1:37 PM
Hi Ann I was the coordinator on the phone. If a friend called that wanted to talk or visit I would say let me ask him if he's up for it. Towards the end he said no to visits and I gently told whoever it was it wasn't a good time but thanked them for calling and asked them to call back at a later time. That seemed to work well.
Normally Phil had no problem with our sons and grandkids visiting. But t...
October 29 at 1:25 PM
Dear GGG I am so sorry for your loss.
Grief is work and takes its own sweet time when you have lost someone so dear.
You might want to look up some grief books or try some counseling thru grief support groups by calling a local hospice.Plus keep coming onto this site.
October 26 at 12:19 AM
Dear Ann I am so sorry you and your husband and family are going through this.
I lost my husband of 40 yrs in 2011 so our sons were both in their 30s. Both have handled the loss of their dad according to their individual personalities. I would think yours will also. Sometimes all we can do is hug a loved one or listen if they want to talk.
For myself I bought all the books I could find written by w...
October 26 at 12:14 AM
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