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Kathy I am so sorry for the loss of your beloved Chuck.
The one thing we learn on this journey is to treasure all the time we have with our loved ones. It's much too short. Terrible way to learn that lesson.
Please take good care of yourself.
Much support on the berevement board when you feel up to wandering there.
August 25 at 10:51 PM
Marie I have found peace in thinking tht no matter what we tried to do, to the best of our human ability, it was Phil's time to leave this physical world with us. Before I accepted that I felt full of guilt that I could have done more.
The serenity prayer has helped me: God grant me the serenity to accept the things I can not change, courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the diff...
August 20 at 2:06 PM
Glitzy If you find the way to beat grief sell it to us, please. While my husband was still alive those last nine months I tried to memorize everything about him. Not sure if that idea was a blessing or curse at least not a first. Both our sons resemble him so I have only to look there and see a huge part of him. I miss the sound of his voice. Wish I had captured that but probably would have worn it out by...
August 18 at 5:02 PM
Hi Carrie Wonderful idea of pillow cases and teddy bears etc! I donated much of Phil's things a couple years ago. probably between 3-6 months into this new life. I too thought if something happens to me our sons would have so much to go through. I have tried to downsize a bit of my own things just because of that reason.
There are a few things i did save. Like the jacket he wore back in the late 60...
August 18 at 4:55 PM
Hope everyone is doing well today. It feels like autumn here in NJ today. I don't mind even though I prefer summer and the heat. Hard for me to get warm once I am cold and I get cold once those temps dip below 60. Yup I am a sissy.
So now I have picked up two more instruments. Crazy? probably but why not? I ask. What do I have to lose? Nothing. What do I gain? Fun learning, plus I can drive ...
August 15 at 2:28 PM
I was out Saturday playing mini golf when all of a sudden the day, August 9th came to mind. It took me a minute to figure what it meant. Then it registered. It was my mother's birthday!
You might think I am callous in forgetting that day but my mom died of a heart attack when I was less than two weeks old. I only have 4 pictures of her and no one really spoke much ab...
August 11 at 6:14 PM
It's strange how life changes and evolves. Last July I was still so sad and it was over 2 1/4 yrs. since Phil had passed. Oh there had begun to be some happy moments but that sad outweighed happy thinking of him gone and being so lonely after the 2 elderly dogs passed too.
But then August 1st 2013 came and so did my little Emme girl. Fate,God, the universe semed to align and say a big YES to my cry. E...
August 04 at 6:38 PM
Joey Drs and hospice can give you signs of the final stages. Less eating, more sleeping and a weakness and decline in general. Skin tone and fluids that build up. Everyone is different.
I actually had a patient with mouth cancer that was comatose and expected to live less that 24 hrs by all dying signs. For some reason he got better and even came off hospice for 6 months. We had no clue ...
August 04 at 6:15 PM
thinking more about the wedding rings... I know one woman who has been widowed for about 8 yrs. She still wears hers though not because of the love she had for her husband because when she talks about him it is anything but loving. She just does it so no one else will bother her.
August 01 at 2:32 AM
Glitzy I remember thinking and telling our younger son shortly after Phil died that I had lost my identity. I had also lost my job nine months before he past so it was a double whammy. At that time my son and DIL needed me to get the kids on and off the school bus so that was what i did. Plus I attended all their sports, baseball, softball soccer and field hockey. Also became a bit m...
July 30 at 1:25 PM
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