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    Allie   I am so sorry you lost your husband. It takes a long time to work thru grief of losing a spouse. It probably seems like forever since December to you. I remember how I just tried to get thru each day and those endlessly long nights after my husband passed. Plus there was that fog of trying to do things. I found that unless a friend had been thru it themselves they really didn't understand. I know ...

    March 24 at 3:49 PM view post
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      I am so sorry for the loss of your mother. No one will ever replace her and I am sure your father knows this. Widowhood (horrible neighborhood) is such a lonely desolate place. Unfortunately family members can only help so much as everyone is going thru their own grief. Loss of a parent is so different than loss of a child or a spouse. Also so individual.  It is normal for you to be a bit resentful about you...

      March 22 at 8:12 PM view post
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        Dear Stephen   I know how you feel. I remember saying those exact words to my best friend when I was well into the second year after Phil had died to this physical world. The ache just never seemed to leave. I would not hurt myself, but the desire to live was no longer there even though I participated in family functions and breathed in and out.  I did a lot of praying. I said "God I can go now and it'...

        March 18 at 6:59 PM view post
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          I am so sorry for the loss of your brother. I am sure it was a reassuring blessing for him to hear you say you would take care of his sons.

          March 18 at 6:49 PM view post
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            Stephen    It's so easy to take our lives and the lives of those around us for granted especially when things go well. I think most of us here no longer do that. When Phil became ill each day I made a gratitude list. No matter how bad things got I found there were precious things. There are... even in our struggling grief. Irene

            March 05 at 12:41 AM view post
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              I am so sorry for the loss of your dear Jock.   After Phil passed I had both dogs who were on the senior side. His pug Misty never liked me but we sought comfort in each others company. My greyhound Dickens was a mama's boy lol. Frankly it was harder losing the pug a couple years later cause it seemed like another piece of Phil was gone.  hugs   Irene

              February 25 at 1:53 PM view post
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                Dear Melissa   No one can ever take the place of your mom and I think there will always be those times that grab hold with intense missing.  Please try to be kind to yourself. I am sure your mom would want that. Don't berate yourself for the sadness or breakdowns. They can ebb and flow like the tide in a storm.    Irene

                February 18 at 2:39 PM view post
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                  Kelly   You got me to thinking about the shows we watched together. Phil loved his sports. Hockey, baseball, basketball, football. I'd look up from reading or needlework and instead of the football game there would be a baskeball game. lol.  The one we watched together every night was Jeopardy. I would sometimes get a pen out and we would see who could guess more. After he died I just couldn't watch i...

                  February 18 at 2:34 PM view post
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                    Dear Csimonwitz   I am so sorry for the loss of your dear husband.  April 8 it will be 4 years since my husband Phil died after a battle with esophageal cancer. Everyone's grief experience is their individual. But generally I think most of us have gone through a numbness at first. I remember trying to get just one thing done each day for a while. Then I would have to lay down. I cried a...

                    February 17 at 4:36 PM view post
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                      Hi Eternal    My DIL had surgery on Friday so I haven't been on computer. Why she picked Friday the 13th and the day before Valentines Day to have the hysterectomy I don't know. It was not emergency surgery. I know her valentines day was painful and stressful for my son also for me taking the kids here and there as needed. Be that as it may. I did see my friend Saturday evening even though we dea...

                      February 17 at 4:14 PM view post
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                      Esophageal Cancer
                      Alternative Treatments, Cancer Diagnosis, Cancer Nutrition, Chemotherapy, Diagnostic Imaging, Diet, Emotional Support, Radiation

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