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    Carrie   One thing I did the first year was read just about every book out there written by widows. They had been there. Reading how other people were feeling the same and had been thru similar situations was helpful. Last summer I gave them to my SIL and she is finding them useful also. I also worked in a grief workbook. I tried a bereavement group but it just was not a good fit for me though many others d...

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      Hi Carrie    I used to hear some weird stuff like you were lucky to have a good marraige or I know how you feel my husband works nights and also there was you have changed. I felt like yelling "Don't you get it! I lost the love of my life!How do I go on when I have lost my identity??"  Then I realized no one gets it until they have been here. I was a hospice nurse for almost 20 yrs...

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        My friend was diagnosed with prostate cancer a couple of years ago. It was just localized in the prostate. He had radiation treatment. Afterwards It was followed up with the testoserone shut down shots, one every 3 months for a year plus pills daily. After that he went to one every 6 months(which he has had 2)  He said that last year he had much more energy and was walking a couple miles ever...

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          Carrie   Hearing you mention how heavy your legs took me back to when Phil was finally correctly diagnosed.  I knew I had to get out and walk. Walking is my way to relieve tension. But when I walked out the door I felt as though I could barely left each leg. It was like there was cement holding them down. After he passed I simply had no energy. I remember sitting down to work on just one thin...

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            Stephen     The rain does come and go. I am over 3 yrs as a widow and it still comes though not as quickly and not as often. But it does come and with some force at times.  At first that first year the sun rarely came from behind those clouds and the rain fell every day. Months before I felt like the sun shined and I actually smiled. Some people have told me I was lucky to have had such...

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              Sue                           I did have fun. It was not a vacation I would ever have picked. I am more of a nature girl who likes the quiet of the woods. But I have come to the idea that we only go around once and since Phil died I have forced myself into doing things I might not try. I t...

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                Well friends I made it back in one piece from vacation with Noel and Tara and gkids: Jordyn and Tyler. I never was inclined to do Disney but they begged me to go (and drive half the time lol). Sooo many people and I am not one for crowds but I figured if I didn't go now it wouldn't happen and as the children have grown into teens I know time together is limited. We here know that No time is promised us.  I ...

                July 08 at 6:57 PM view discussion
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                  Ozigirl    It's okay to feel the way you do. I think most of us widowed have felt similarly. Please be gentle with yourself. Phil and I had planned for a big 40th anniversary celebration by going to the Keys and it never happened. He was much too ill by then. When I would hear friends talking about vacations or decorating I felt as though we were living in an entirely diferent world. I wouldn't g...

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                    Hi Oakisland      As being 3 and a quarter years down this widow road I can say that grief does change. The loss is still there and at times it sneaks up like a pit viper and strikes while I am unaware. This past week I went with my younger son and his family down to the Disney parks. It was my first time. On the way down a Fleetwood Mac song came on and I thought...Phil is with us and it sor...

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                      Kelly   Laughter will come again and so will joy. I remember it was about 6 months after Phil died that I really laughed at something. What a strange feeling! When a heart is broken it is also open. Just experiencing nature to me is a blessing and of course my pup Emme. Boy does that girl bring me laughs. Irene

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