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Please have them check her brain! Once it spreads the survival rate goes down significantly. My mom had the doctors save her lung only to not check with an MRI and it spread to her brain and she died a hideous death. I will pray for you.

I'm so sorry you're going through this. You are so young! My mom was diagnosed with lung cancer and it spread to her brain. She fought hard for 16 months and died a hideous death. I hated to see her suffer. I prayed for her suffering to end. My dad died when I was 6 and I was an only child. She was everything to me. It has been over a year and I still miss her every day. It doesn't ever get easier it just gets different. I will pray for you as you learn how to carry on without your dear mom. I'm certain her rewards will be bountiful in heaven!

RE: lung brain cancer

by leighayn4517 - October 25, 2013

Hi, I am so sorry you are going through this. My mom had lung cancer spread to her brain. She would eat napkins b/c she couldn't remember what they were for, she forgot how to use a straw so we had to give her a sippy cup. Her insurance covered her hospice. They were a lifesaver! Toward the end she became more and more distant. Almost like she was looking past us when we spoke to her. She also had less urine output and her urine became very dark and almost thick. She ate less and was refusing her medications. She would cry aloud in pain and showed signs of mottling (skin turning blue especially in arms and legs). She died shortly thereafter. I understand your wanting it to end to stop the suffering. As sad as I was when she died, I knew it was coming and that I couldn't stop it so when she passed, I felt such relief. You never want to see the strongest person you know suffer in that hideous way. Is you mom coming? If not, it is best to tell your dad. Then he can pass if that is what he is waiting for. I told my mom that she could "go" when she was ready. Although I wanted her to stay, she needed to be at peace. One week later, she was gone. She was only 54. I miss her every day. I am so so so so sorry that you have to be engulfed in this sadness. I pray for you and your family. Heaven's rewards will be bountiful for your dear father. God bless you!

RE: Beautiful dream

by leighayn4517 - August 27, 2012

I am sorry for your loss. I know how powerful a dream can be. While my mom was in the late stages of her battle with lung cancer with brain mets, I dreamed I saw her on a deserted highway. She hugged me and said "everything is going to be okay." Then, she was off in the distance waving to me. When I was six, my dad was killed by a drunk driver. My mom said she dreamed that he met her on a bridge and said that he would always be with us. She woke up to that dreaded knock at our door with the awful news. She said she saw hawks in her dream. Every time we saw hawks we said it was my dad saying "hi." At the end of mom's battle, I asked her to show me a sign that she is okay after she passed. I told her to make it obvious because I would be grief stricken. Two days after she went to heaven, I was "attacked" by butterflies. My mom and I always loved butterflies! I got a butterfly tattoo in my younger days and she had a butterfly bush that she cut part of to give to me for my yard. "Dog and Butterfly" was her favorite song ever. After my initial shock wore off that I was being swarmed by "bugs," I lost my breath and blurted out, "Is that you, mom?" I see butterflies all the time now. I see them circling me, they sit on picnic blankets with me and my girls and they STAY! They are unafraid and always near. I saw you today, sweet butterfly. I love you always. Rèste en paix céleste!
I agree that everyone is different. This sounds a lot like my mom, who lost her battle in June. Leading up to her final days, she showed signs of mottling (bluish/bruised looking skin on legs and hands)and she slept more and more. Her breathing became very shallow and slowed. She couldn't eat solids anymore. She just didn't seem lucid at all near the end. She died peacefully in her sleep. I hope you have peace for all involved. I know how hard it is. I still cry everyday. God bless you.
My mom lost her battle with lung cancer with brain mets on June 5, 2012. Toward the end, I asked her to show me a sign that she is okay. I told her to make it obvious because I would be grief stricken. Two days after she passed, I was "attacked" by butterflies. My mom and I always loved butterflies! I got a butterfly tattoo in my younger days and she had a butterfly bush that she cut part off of to give to me for my yard. "Dog and Butterfly" was her favorite song ever. After my initial shock wore off that I was being swarmed by "bugs," I lost my breath and blurted out, "Is that you?" I see butterflies all the time now. I see them circling me, they sit on picnic blankets with me and my girls and they STAY! They are unafraid and always near. When my dad died when I was six, my mom said she believed when we saw hawks that it was my dad sying "hi." Now, I feel that I have a new angel and I call her "mom." I saw you today, sweet butterfly. I love you always. Rèste en paix céleste!

RE: How can she be gone?

by leighayn4517 - August 08, 2012

This post hit me especially hard because I lost my mom on June 5. She was only 55 and had lung cancer spread to her brain. She fought for a little over a year since her diagnosis. It just happened so fast. I watched her suffer mercilessly and still find myself so angry at the "why her?" I also feel lost and no longer strong w/o my momma. I miss her every day. Especially now that I'm pregnant with baby #3. God bless you and I hope you can find comfort, but I know how hard it is.
I'm so sorry to hear of the new mass. When my mom's lung cancer spread to her brain and after all treatment failed, I literally saw all hope leave her with one breath. She declined very rapidly after that. When she was actively dying, she wouldn't even look at or acknowledge me. It was so hard, but I know that (as a parent) it is harder for them than it is for us. We don't ever want to leave our children. Just be there for him. All you can do is be there. Love him. Let him know you love him. Each and every day. Always say it. If you think you've said it too much, say it again. God bless you and your family. I'm so sorry you have to go through this. There isn't a day that goes by that I don't miss my mom.

Mom is with God Now

by leighayn4517 - June 11, 2012

My mom lost her battle with lung cancer with brain mets Tuesday, June 5. She died peacefully in her sleep and suffers no more. I miss her every day. May all of you find your miracles, strength to pull through and have faith in God. I can't believe this is real. I want my mom back.
Hi, I am sorry to hear about your mom. My mom is dying from lung cancer with brain mets. I found brainhospice.com to be a great resource. My mom's disease went fast. She was diagnosed a year ago and is not expected to live another week, as her organs are failing her. I think in these situations it is normally the kidneys or heart that just give out on them and that is what kills them, not the actual cancer. But, I'm not a doctor. I hope your mom finds peace and that you can find the strength to deal with this. I know how hard it is.
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Mom died age 55 young with lung cancer spread to her brain on June 5, 2012. She fought for a little over a year, died the same day as her dad did 15 years earlier, and died peacefully in her sleep. Finally: no more suffering. I miss her. This hurt knows no end. RIHP.

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