tpatterson

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• tpatterson has replied to a post on the message board

  I totally agree with Ron.  Balanced nutrition is obviously essential to maintain a healthy body, but Ron is right.  He was cured because he was eligible for debulking surgery and they were able to remove it.  There are wonderful examples here and there where people are still alive after changing their diets, etc.  But sadly, they are outliers.  I truly wish it were true for all our sakes, but...

  April 23 at 7:25 PM view post

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   Wow. The shattered glass is perfect. I sometimes feel like a cake.  I can spread my frosting perfectly so that it looks good on the outside, but the inside has various defects.  As the cake ages or grief continues, the defects are less noticable, but they're still there, just not as devastating as when the cake was first baked.  Yes, Maudsie, peace would be most welcome in any form, for any lengt...

  April 23 at 7:17 PM view post

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  YEs, lung cancer isn't just a smokers' disease.  I never thought my husb would die from it.  I thought maybe a massive heart attack in his 80s.  His father and grandfather both passed instantly of a heart attack.  I could deal with 80, but 56?  All I can say is the Lord asks us to trust in Him, so that's what I'mdoing.  He's given me the best country to be born in, 2 loving parents,...

  March 21 at 9:43 PM view post

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  Angel and Irene, it is so hard to imagine our futures without our husbands. I felt the same way when JP passed.  How can the sun shine and everyone is going about their daily business, but my life has changed so radically? Don't these people know what's happened?  It is quite disconcerting  to go through that.  Then I ponder how others before me have traveled this road and I was oblivious to their...

  March 21 at 7:34 PM view post

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  So sorry for what you are going through with your precious mother.  My JP passed so similiarly, but much too young. (56)  His legs were mottled blue and purplish.  He was restless and agitated, so hospice gave him meds, but he continued to pick at his clothing to the point of nudity. He then settled down and was so peaceful.  He looked at my daughter and I with the most loving expression...

  March 07 at 9:34 PM view post

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  I am so sorry for what you're going through.  I lost my beloved husband of 29 years to lung cancer in 2011.  Like you, I feel I have learned so much about illness, and the dying experience.  You know your husband's love for you grew so much while you were caring for him.  My husband thanked me every day and looked at me with such love in his eyes.  I know that when my time is here, he will be...

  March 01 at 4:11 PM view post

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  Yes, had same thing. Gastric polyps, according to my doc., are almost never cancerous.  She removed 3 from my stomach lining.  Still feeling great after 7 years. Yours will be benign! :)

  February 28 at 8:57 PM view post

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  You all touch my heart.  We truly are sisters in grief, and I wish we lived closer so we could have our own group to share, laugh, cry, kick out butts, whatever.  It's been almost a year and a half since my precious husband passed...I still can't say the d word..I still remember the funeral director arriving and I couldn't bear to let JP leave me.  I just laid in bed with him with my head on his c...

  February 11 at 5:31 PM view post

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  How insensitive of the insurance guy to make that remark.  No check is going to take our heartache away.  Day after day, we will make it.  Faith, fresh air, and sunshine will help us get through it.  I just so wish I could dream about JP.  I really envy those of you who have heard them whisper your name, or they spoke to you in a dream.  Wow!  Irene has even smelled Phil's cologne.&...

  February 07 at 6:44 PM view post

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    Angel, the first year absolutely SUCKS!  The secondyear is no picnic, either.  16 months and I still yearn to smell his neck or hug him.  I love how his platinum blonde hair contrasted with his tanned neck.  The last 5 years I shaved a crew cut, and our daughter used to say he looked badass! ha  He was a big man with a deep voice, but his heart was pure marshmallow.  I can't hear...

  February 06 at 8:04 PM view post