How to tell 77 yr old Mother her 19 yr old niece has aggressive thyroid cancer

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How to tell 77 yr old Mother her 19 yr old niece has aggressive thyroid cancer

by JamesM on Sat Jul 14, 2018 07:50 PM

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My 19 yr old niece was just diagnosed with an aggressive thyroid cancer yesterday. They did a biopsy last Tuesday and got results back yesterday. Do to size of needle used and not being able to stick it in that far. They said they don’t know what stage of cancer or type yet just that it’s aggressive and already spread from her thyroid to left lymph node. They want to do surgery this coming week to remove thyroid and both lymph nodes. Our mother lives alone over 6 hours away and we are afraid that if we tell her she will have a heart attack or a nervous break down because she is already coping with news of one of my cousins having cancer and going through open heart surgery next week to remove a large mass on a heart valve. My nieces father and mother and siblings are all very upset and none of us are coping with this news to well. Just need some advise and support if anybody has any ideas on how we can handle and cope with it and a way to break the news to our mother.

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by JamesM on Sat Jul 14, 2018 07:54 PM

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On Jul 14, 2018 7:50 PM JamesM wrote:

My 19 yr old niece was just diagnosed with an aggressive thyroid cancer yesterday. They did a biopsy last Tuesday and got results back yesterday. Do to size of needle used and not being able to stick it in that far. They said they don’t know what stage of cancer or type yet just that it’s aggressive and already spread from her thyroid to left lymph node. They want to do surgery this coming week to remove thyroid and both lymph nodes. Our mother lives alone over 6 hours away and we are afraid that if we tell her she will have a heart attack or a nervous break down because she is already coping with news of one of my cousins having cancer and going through open heart surgery next week to remove a large mass on a heart valve. My nieces father and mother and siblings are all very upset and none of us are coping with this news to well. Just need some advise and support if anybody has any ideas on how we can handle and cope with it and a way to break the news to our mother.
Sorry I put it as mothers 19 yr old niece in subject line but it is actually her granddaughter..

RE: How to tell 77 yr old Mother her 19 yr old niece has aggressive thyroid cancer

by Pamela1001 on Wed Aug 07, 2019 09:05 AM

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Dear JamesM, how are you? You seemed to be so anxious that it seems that you might have forgotton to take care of yourself. Its a terrible thing that your niece got diagnosed at such young age and my heart goes out to you and the young girl.

I understand how hard it must be for you to inform your mother about the same now, that she is having an open heart surgery but how would you think she will feel when she sees her granddaughter deteriorating on health on having pain which is unexplaine and her visit to the doctors.how are you going to expalin all these to your mother. 

As you have mentioned there are other people who are suffering from cancer in the family.she has beared that fact , i am sure she will be able to make peace with this as well. she might need some time for this but she is strong enough to understand that probably cancer runs in the family.

I wish good luck to the family and hope that your mom's surgery is a success and your niece feels better too. If you want you can visit https://www.voiceofcancerpatients.com/thyroid-cancer to know everything about thyroid cancer and also be able to participate in a community taken care by cancer patients so that you know about all the dos and dont's during the treatment for thyroid cancer.

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