Stage IV

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Stage IV

by Oaks79 on Tue Feb 05, 2019 08:20 PM

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Hi

My brother has just been diagnosed with stage IV colon cancer which has spread to his liver and lungs with they've said is stage 2, his bowel is blocked and he hasn't been able to pass a stool for a couple of weeks. They've said its inoperable and he starts his chemotherapy next week today. 

He has said he has never felt fitter and found out at Christmas that him and his girlfriend are expecting their first baby. This news has just devastated everyone in the family and to be honest I just can't get my head around all the stuff I'm reading online (which is probably a bad thing to do).  I'm not sure if he has been given a time scale of how long he has. If he has he hasn't told no one. 

I just don't know what too think ??

RE: Stage IV

by ToddlerFather on Tue Feb 05, 2019 11:23 PM

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Even if he has been told a time scale, it would have been based in life expectancies of consolidated medical science such as chemo and radiation. Genetic testing, targeted therapies and immunotherapy are making a difference, and we don't know yet how much. 

I think you should plan his wedding... 

RE: Stage IV

by Oaks79 on Tue Feb 05, 2019 11:29 PM

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Hi yeah he has mentioned that they want to get married before the baby is born, thing is money is so tight at the moment, think I might have to reached out to one of the wedding wish charities. 

Thanks for the reply

RE: Stage IV

by jab4511 on Thu Feb 07, 2019 08:41 PM

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My sister-in-law had a similar diagnosis, but had not spread quite as much, a year ago January. I just recommend that he carefully consider the treatment that is prescribed. Julie was very uncomfortable when she arrived at the hospital and was thrown into a very agressive chemo program. I believe that her body was unable to withstand the treatment and as a result she did not make it. She was gone just a few weeks later. A friend of the family who was also diagnosed with stage IV colon cancer, received a less agressive approach of treatment and is with us today.

I would never suggest not receiving treatment that is recommended by the people who fight this disease every day, but I do believe we need to be our own advocates. The knee jerk reaction is often to react fast and hard. There is no one answer, and this may not be helpful, but I honestly believe that the approach taken with my sister-in-law was not the right one for her.

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