A tough time - Long distance struggle

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A tough time - Long distance struggle

by eduardoNJ on Wed Jun 03, 2009 12:00 AM

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My wife's father was diagnosed with stage IV stomach cancer almost 2 years ago and we rushed to South Korea (number one type of cancer in South Korea). The doctors removed his stomach and opted not for chemo.

On Monday, Dad had been experiencing a lot of pain, he went to the hospital, the doctors said there is complete blockage now due to the spread of the cancer, nothing to do. They informed the us that the time is near, could be a days, not more than a few weeks. They can only give him something to ease the pain.

Dad is a strong willed chap, so he checked himself out of the hospital after hearing the news and is back at his home.

My wife, at times, beats up on herself that she is so far away, not closer during this time of Dad's life.

We are flying as a family to visit him.

I'm hoping to be able to support my wife and kids in this difficult time.

 

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by takesthecake on Wed Jun 03, 2009 12:00 AM

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God Bless you all. 

I can relate a little. My mom has been diagnosed with Kidney cancer.  They confirmed that it is cancer and that she isn't curable but managable.  It has been three weeks since the biopsy has been done and we still haven't been given results.  I am in Texas and she is Toronto, Canada.  Not nearly as far as you but I completely understand.  My heart goes out to you all.  I lost my dad to cancer about 3 and half yrs ago.  Again, I was in Texas and he was in Newfoundland, Canada.  I flew home, he had just went to the palative care unit.  He died the next night.  The doctor swears that he only lived long enough to see me.  I was beating myself over that one for a long time.

Be strong, give him lots of love and tell you wife that she should not be hard on herself.  Life takes us on many paths and we must deal with everything that is passed on to us.  Her dad understands how it is and all she can do is show him how much she loves him and all will be fine.

 My best to you.  Have a safe trip and bless you and your family.

Dawn

 

RE: A tough time - Long distance struggle

by gizmoyogi1 on Sun Sep 13, 2009 12:00 AM

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My mom has Renal Cell, has had her kidney taken and part of her lung! She lives in CA I live in MA. There is not a day that goes by that I dont wish I could be there with her I wish so badly I lived right next door. She is stronger than me sometimes, I think this is what has gotten her through most of the bad days, god bless her and her strength. Although she has strength I wonder how her emotional feelings are, and how sad it must be that her whole family lives so far away, almost makes me feel guilty! She lives in the high desert its beautiful there and relaxing so that must help her too! She has a wonderful man that loves and takes excellent care of her! for that I am greatfull!! But prayers will help with the distance between us, so for anyone who is in my shoes, PRAY! god will give you peace and hope that your loved one will be ok, even if you live very far away!!
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