Finding Comfort - Any Signs After They Passed?...

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Finding Comfort - Any Signs After They Passed?...

by SarahGrey on Sat Jun 01, 2013 11:27 PM

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Hello everyone, For now, I'm still part of the 'caregiver' forum. Watching my husband suffer through a GBM brain tumor is truly devastating... I think the only thing that gets me through each day and makes things 'ok' is the true belief that there's something 'more' after this life. The notion that, he's just such a wonderful person, that God granted him a ticket to the next place - I think it's far too soon but... But anyway, again, the idea and belief that there's more after this life is what comforts me and makes me think it will be ok... Eventually... I know all of you on this site are suffering and grieving. Obviously... :( And my heart breaks for all of you... I cry with each of you as I read your posts... And I can't even begin to imagine the grief I will soon feel... I was thinking... Maybe if everyone could share if they've had any 'signs' from their loved ones, it might help everyone? In my past, hearing about little signs of family or friends who have passed have been the most comforting thing... And I recall a year or so ago when I first came here, people posted some signs they got and my reaction was, 'oh, thank God!'... I think, an afterlife (or whatever you want to call it) is the ONLY thing that makes sense of all this suffering our loved ones have endured... Without the thought of an afterlife, I would definitely be a more depressed, sick and horrifically bitter person... :( Any stories anyone can share would truly be appreciated - I'm sure by everyone here... Wishing everyone peace and comfort, Sarah

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by herrmajo on Sun Jun 02, 2013 08:13 PM

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So sorry you are on this miserable journey!

I do believe that there is something out there. Lost my best friend on Easter of '09, my Dad Aug. of '10, my Mom Feb. of '11 and the love of my life May of '11. My best friend sent signs about her 3 mo. passing, pretty regular for about a month,Mom and Dad nothing. My love is here every once in awhile. But approx. 6-8 mos. after he passed I was a total mess and  he came in a dream, it just wasn't a dream, it was him. He came and the physical sight was totally not right and I said my god, what have they done to you, poof gone, came back later and was looking much more like him, face was right, body not so much, but he told me that they have seen be being so sad and he sent me to let you know he was okay and I needed to be too.He said he was not physically who he was when he was here,  Told me it was so beautiful there, he was happy and I needed to be too. Told me he loved me aand would not be able to come back again, just this one time. Get signs at our cabin, turns on a motion  light that has never worked until he passed,first happened first time I and his family were there after he passed and now only when I am there by myself, as if keeping an eye on me. Soooo comforting! Just this past weekend had a bunch of neighbors over,light never came on with all the activity, next night I went out to light a fire in the pit and bingo, on came the light! :)

Hang in there, it's a long hard road for everyone involved.

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by SarahGrey on Sun Jun 02, 2013 08:32 PM

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first of all, omg what a rough patch you went through!  i'm so sorry you endured so much loss in such a short time period...  :(

and thank you...  really...  thank you for sharing that story...  it's definitely comforting and helpful!

wishing you nothing but the best, sarah

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by BAILY on Mon Jun 03, 2013 03:18 AM

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OH Sarah,

 

I can only say what happen to me the night my husband passed I was asleep and I woke up sobing that my husband was dying and he was dying so someone woke me. As I  walked over to his bed and he was sweating and breathing slowly he passed  30 mins later I keep looking for a sign but nothing yet but I guess I got what I really needed. YOUR IN MY HEART AND PRAYERS .Sending you a hug Sarah  .

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by SarahGrey on Mon Jun 03, 2013 01:52 PM

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oh wow, baily... that was good that you got to be right there beside him as he passed over...  thank you so much for your kind words - they mean a lot...

i have some stories i would like to share...

recently a friend had their father pass. (well, last summer)  she would sit in the backyard at night and 'talk' to him and just open up.  she and her husband had a light by the pool but it didnt have any batteries in it.  she said several times when she was talking to her father, the light would turn on...

additionally, a few children in my family have spoken of things that gave everyone chills. about seeing grandma in their room after their grandma had passed...  my nephew saw an old picture randomly of his great grandpa.  (he was maybe 3 years old) and he told his father 'that's my pop pop.'  my brother (his father) was confused and said it was HIS pop pop, and how did he know what that man was called?  my nephew insisted it was HIS pop pop and that 'he told me.'  sooooo...  

anyway, hopefully these stories help you guys as they helped me...  

all the best, sarah

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by KellyC on Mon Jun 03, 2013 05:55 PM

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I was talking to my dad right before he passed over.  He told me, "Kelly, last night I dreamed of a big number 4 in bright lights like a movie poster board all lit up.  It was so bright and warm looking.  What do you think that means?"

I answered that I had no idea but from the joy on his face I was so glad he had that dream.

4 days later, at 4:44 in the morning he passed over. 

There has been many times I awake at exactly 4:44am.  I think it's his way of saying Hi!

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by SarahGrey on Mon Jun 03, 2013 07:21 PM

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what???  woah!  that's wild!  and how nice that the dream gave him such comfort somehow...  and wow about you feeling comfort at the same time in the morning :)  

see, there are just too many 'weird' things out there...  thank God!  ;)

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by mavcav on Mon Jun 03, 2013 11:36 PM

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The day we buried my Grandfather, I was out by my Grandma's flower garden and a beautiful butterfly came by.  Stayed around for quite awhile as I just stood right close to it.  One could say that it was just enjoying the flowers, but I have never seen a butterfly just "hang out" for so long and not fly away when a person is really close to it (unless you go to one of those indoor butterfly pavilions).  I think it was my Grandpa as I was the one to hold it all together and not cry the day of the funeral cuz I have that training of must be strong.  Anyhow, it gave me comfort on that day.

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by RobinMB on Tue Jun 04, 2013 02:59 AM

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I have an incredible story!!!  We lost one of our best friends ten years ago.  His name was Dave, and he died from glioblastoma.  He had a beautiful wife and two small children.  He was one of the nicest guys you could ever know.  He always had kind words to say about everyone.  He was an amazing friend, husband and father.  Fast forward 3 more years.  My husband, who is an avid fisherman, decided to take his boat out on a cold day in March (we live in NY, and it is still winter in March over here).  He always loved to wake up early and fish until lunch time.  It was and still is one of his favorite things to do.  Shortly after he left, I received a phone call saying there had been an accident.  I thought for sure that he hit a deer.  We live in a semi-rural area.  There are deer running around everywhere early in the morning out here.  But, when I arrived, I saw my husband all wrapped up in a wool blanket with emergency medical technicians around him.  You see, while he was backing his boat into the water to launch it into a creek, he accidentally hit the gas pedal.  The boat and truck rolled very rapidly in the water and were pulled into the creek by the fast-flowing current.  My husband was stuck in the driver's seat.  He said he used all his strength to kick the door open, but the water was too powerful.  He thought he was ready to drown.  Then, he was able to pry the door open with his fingers.  He doesn't know how he even squeezed his fingers through the small opening.  Finally, he opened the door and swam to shore.  The boat floated away and the truck was totalled.  But, he was alive, and that was all that mattered.  The strangest thing about this story is that some time before this accident, I had a bizzarre dream.  It was one of those dreams that wakes you up in the middle of the night because it's so upsetting.  I envisioned a creek near a cabin.  My husband and our friend, Dave, were sitting by the shore.  The creek swelled and swept them both away.  Suddenly, an arm appeared out of the water and pulled my husband to safety.  Dave never made it out alive.  But my husband lived.  I believe our friend saved my husband that day.  In some way, he was responsible for helping my husband survive the accident.  Unfortunately, my husband has glioblastoma now.  He is fighting for his life, and I can only pray for a miracle and for our friend, Dave, to help him survive one more time!  I believe he is my husband's angel.

RE: Finding Comfort - Any Signs After They Passed?...

by SarahGrey on Tue Jun 04, 2013 02:02 PM

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oh wow, those are great stories!! thanks guys!  i'm happy, it seems these stories are helping everyone else as much as theyre helping me :)

keep them coming!!  :)

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